They are like doctors I know my boyfriend in no way is looking at his clients like a piece of meat. Never once has this bothered me. Also my boyfriend works at one of the top shops in a fairly large city. Never once has he not been home till 3am.
The latest I would say was 1am and it was my brother he was working on. Also long hours with no answer? Even if a client happens to sit for multiple hours there is almost always multiple breaks. Anonymous, I understand that you're taking your husband's happiness into consideration but it seems like he's not taking yours into consideration. Would he really make you sacrifice your passion because you're "touching men" all day.
You said yourself that you only look at them as canvases. The way he's looking at it is just a technicality. Whats even harder than dating a tattooer, is being that tattooer. I have been tattooing for 4 years now and just now my husband decided to tell me that i touch men all day. Thats a long story short. Point is, i feel so sick to my stomach. Not once during my career have i looked at a persons body as a body, just a canvas. I cant stop thinking about and am having thoughts about ending this career now.
Its such a hard decision. Do i sacrifice my passion for my husbands happiness? What you guys need to understand is we see the body part as a canvas that is being worked on, not a shapely butt, or a full breast, or great abs. I save my photos of work and stare at them constantly to find where improvement is needed, not to check the client out. However he knows and understands I'm a woman so if i react to certain stuff its because i have good reason to and plus I'm human too.
Trust is a major issue in any relationship to date a tattoo artist you need to have loads of it. But at the end of the day when he comes home his not a tattoo artist his the man i love and i don't mind having to spend my life with him. I guess love itself is always a work in progress.
Currently going through this I love him so much. He's cheated on me, one of them was a client also his ex though about 10 months ago. I just found out about all of them a couple months ago we are currently in a long distance relationship. He's making huge strides in making things work. When I walked away he kind of realized what he lost and vowed to change. But ugh I tell ya, the jealousy is tough.
When he tells me he's doing one of those underboob tattoos I get such an awful feeling after the cheating. He's got one in a couple days actually. I know it's his job and he's only focusing on his art but the jealousy IS tough. Glad to know I'm not the only one. I think one of the hardest things is coming in second.
Battling long distance is hard enough but when I don't really get to talk to him much during the day, then he's at the shop all night, it blows. And when he comes up my way for guest spots and he's working the entire time when all I wanna do is spend time with him, ugh! But I tell you, I love this guy and I'm blessed that he has turned his life around after the mistakes he made, I know some people aren't so fortunate.
I'm so glad I'm not the only one who goes through this. I thought I was alone in battling the ups and downs of dating a tattooist, and a good looking talented one at that. Thank you for writing this! There's really not a lot out there for girls like us to turn to so thank you. Every time I feel down because of my boyfriends job, I always come to this site and read your blog.
It always makes me feel better that I'm not the only one who goes through the pain. It was driving me insane! I was worried about talking about any little matter that got to me because I didn't want him to think I wasn't being supportive, whiny or I was selfish. I held it in for too long a year and a half and one day I exploded, revealing everything that made me sad, down to my own insecurities, jealousy and how I felt so alone and unwanted at times.
It's hard for him too But you know how we are, women's brains think and think and think until we make ourselves upset. I still get upset at times when I need him and he's not there for me. But I'm learning and it's bad to dwell on negative thoughts. I just treasure the rare time we spend together. I know my man is my partner for life. I work as a piercist in the same shop as my tattoo artist boyfriend, giiiirrrl. You seem to have been doing this for a while, any tips on how to overcome jealousy?
I've been dating a tattoo artist for several months now,and we are happy. There's times it drives me crazy but fact of the matter is I love him so ill stand beside him thru and thru.. It is hard but at the end of the day it's so worth it The one I had, from what I found out later on cheated in everyone he was ever with.
Got him a youngen' within just a few weeks. We were together 2 years. I figure she was in the picture before our split. And falling for "him" tattoo artist gradually.. I'm falling in love with my tattoo artist. I absolutely love this! I have been with my tattoo artist for 7 years now, and I couldn't agree more with what you said. Unlike most women, I don't struggle with the typical jealousy issues.
I actually understand the industry, and know that every artist is different. On the flip side, I also know that I was once his customer, and that the possibility exists that it might happen again. That's life, but that's life in every relationship. I think it would definitely bother me more if he decided to give free work to a woman for advertisement. I've actually never heard of such a thing, and I've been around many artists. I've heard of "this for that", but never "hey let me sleeve you out for free so people can see my work. I can say that the main struggle in my relationship was definitely the time, but with age has come much wisdom and we finally got that hashed out.
If I could give any advice to the woman of an artist it would be to get to know the man you're with before jumping to conclusions. All men are different, and all artists do not have the same work ethic. If you have a true artist on your hands, you will know. Also know that the same way you stress about the long nights alone and lack of communication due to their working schedule; they also stress about their woman getting tired of being alone and spending time elsewhere.
When I began my relationship, he had been tattooing for only 5 years and had nothing. I was 22, he was Now we have a very successful and beautiful shop and live close to it. It took a lot of growing up on both ends and we will both admit that we are where we are at now because of my diligence in working things out. Being with a tattoo artist and business owner is not for the weak or those who lack confidence, and I say this with all honesty and compassion.
If you're not willing to put in work or make some personal sacrifices in order to be the "supportive woman", than its best to move on. With regards to tattooing for free, I sincerely hope that artists understand that time is money and any time away from your family is definitely worth some money!! If a woman ever told me she was sleeping with my man , my first question would be "did she pay for her tattoos? I do not condone cheating, but I refuse to consume time stressing about it when there are kids to feed and bills to pay.
Can I get an Amen? I wish you all the best and I hope to read more interesting stories. It's nice to have a community of "tattoo wives" to go to, because the reality is not many others understand the struggle! It has been over two years since I commented here. I am now married to my guy and life just gets better everyday. I have faced a lot of problems in my relationship especially when it came to trust and it was certainly not easy.
I had to realize that my love for my guy triumphed over my trust issues. I was tired of getting myself upset over these little tattoo groupies and pushing him further away. It came to a point where I said to him I will trust you till you give me a reason not to. As for the loneliness I now kinda enjoy doing things on my own now when him and I get together the time is that much better and we have a lot more to talk about. It gets better ladies! Just hang in there!!!! It's a private group so everything in it will stay within the group.
My man won't allow it either. Pick something from my sheets or tell me what you want. Fuck off back to where you came from until you have an idea. Tattoo artists are just like everyone else. Stop making it weird and just treat them like normal people. About Press Career Terms Privacy. May 28, 6: Of course, I do, that's why i am still dating him, there been break-ups, fights, shouting.
I totally understand its his part of the work. One thing good about him is, he is not into smokes and drinks.. How can he keep his mans part calm when they are in one room and the girl is shirtless sitting. That is the weakness of all male being in the world, we cannot deny that. That's what worried me more than anything. It is not easy dating a tattoo artist. Tell me, how can you be sure he is tattoo at around 2: I convinced myself that yes, he loves me and he would not do stuff i won't like.
So, far, we are good. I have access to all his social sites, I maintain his FB page. I know all his phone password. I'm married to a tattoo artist, we've been together for 5 when I met him tattooing was his side job and has since improved an incredible amount and now works at a shop and is the one that is mainly being requested. I have trust issues I always have honestly I think it's because of my mother I've had three long term relationships two of the three have cheated on me and damaged me a great deal one of those being my husband.
He's never cheated on me with a client it was an ex but my husband is good looking and I'm sure there is lots of girls who would love to sleep with him there is always clients that tell him how sexy and good looking he is.
Long story short I'm a very jealous person but I pick and choose my battles. I can't be mad at him because someone thinks he looks good. However I'm finding it such a hard time dealing with him tattooing girls in private areas!!! Like underboob, or butt tattoos you know just private areas. It's not that I don't trust him I do to an extent, I don't feel he's cheating on me now and he claims he wouldn't now that we have a family he understands and wouldn't want to lose what we have for a piece of ass as he says.
I don't think he'll feel on the girl either. But I do think he'll check her out and it's just the fact that he's touching another woman in a private that drives me crazy animalistic nature he agreed not to tattoo those areas but since he's been in the shop his boss is pressuring him to tattoo anywhere and not care about my feelings. So how can I deal with being OK! Is there anyone else who Hates it or was that way? How can I be more supportive of all of his work. What worked for you? I have been with my tattoo artist for almost 10 years now, even tho we aren't married I consider him my husband I have known him since we were 12 years old and he is my high school sweet heart and the father of my 7 year old son I did that out site out of mind thing and it helped a lot but it wasn't easy to forget what he did I couldn't understand why he did it and what I did to deserve it I mean once he found out he wanted to be a tattoo artist I gave up my dream to be a hair dresser for his dream to come true I came into this Industry with him and supported him in anyway shape or form I mean I have been there for him through all the good and bad and yet my worst fear happened he cheated and broke my heart and family up I knew what we were getting into and what kind of life style it was but I trusted him I mean all I ask for is once in a while spend more time with me and his son but it never happens until I cry my eyes out to him I didn't want to go down this road again but after a week he calls me say I was right and he needs me to help him balance his work and us out I don't know how to go by this or deal with it How did u deal with it and how did you get them to see they don't have to separate their career from their family???
I agree with alot of the stuff on here, i guess i googled and this came up, its so stressfull at times. Ive been with my man for over ten years we have a child and he opened a tattoo shop 3 years ago he runs it solely and is the only artist so all day into the eveings its just him and his client in the chair. I trust him but its the other girls i dont trust, ive seen messages that are obviously flirting and he acts obvlivious to it and talks back in a manner that if it were me he was talking to i would consider flirting. He would get mad at me if i acted the way he does, towards other guys i spoke to.
But "its just buisness" aparently. I guess if your other half was a model it would be hard too! Like someone said above, they come home to you at the end of the day. Like any other guy who is just out doing their job, earning a living for you and your family. Be proud that your tattoo artist other half is making a decent living and has a lot of respect for from complete strangers, their egos may be big! But at the end of the day, like any relationship, expecially in todays society with social media taking over our lifes, if its meant to be it'll work cos you both will make it work, by respecting each other, caring for, communicating openenly, trusting and loving.
So I am 22, and my tattoo artist boyfriend is I have a two year old daughter and we live in interior Alaska. He works long hours some days. For a while I thought he was cheating on me, but I honestly don't think he is. It's hard to accept him being a tattoo artist but I'm slowly and surely getting there. I trust him but sometimes find myself questioning him, sadly. I fear he flirts He first met me in a bar and "fell in love with me at first sight. He apparently has a strict rule never to date your clients. I'm just scared and paranoid it seems for no reason. He is a good man and a well respected tattoo artist.
I fear he will find someone else in the chair. We are pretty good at being honest with each other, which is key. We constantly remind each other that we trust and love each other with respect. Dating a tattoo artist is not easy, and probably never will be. But, building that foundation is key for his profession to be tolerable. He is a very good, funny man. So some days I will accuse him of flirting and cheating with no real tangible which is childish on my part and learning to stop it asap because it's not fair.
I love him with all I have and hope it lasts forever. Omg i need this Facebook group. I have been with my man for 7 years and we just had our son 1 year ago. I'm so glad I'm not alone. Omg lady you literally took it out of my mouth. I love your post it truly shows how it is out there. When I started dating my man he always charged me, my friends kept asking "why is he charging you", "you guys are going out he should do free ink on you".
Hell no I didn't even think about it and tip him as much as I could when I went to the shop. Some people will never understand this business and what tattoo artists are going thru every day. Between trying to make some decent money and being blown off by people constantly, it makes me angry every day. We gotta support our men and be there for them they are sensitive and beautiful people and others need to understand it. I dated a tattoo artist for 3 years never again. I myself have a very high profile career and have never been tempted with many of the offer that came my way from celebrities because I was deeply in love in a committed relationship.
It has now been five years in and let me assure you that not much changes in the way of dating a tattoo artist. After five years together we still. We got some straight talk from some of our favorite artists to learn how they some quotes and kept everything anonymous at the requests of the artists. I'm not going to try to sell you on getting a new tattoo, and I don't want.
Well not mt tattoo artist boyfriend. How many time I caught him cheating on me I lost count a long time ago. Screwing women in the shop. I have never been an insecure woman , know how it is to have to deal with someone in this field because I have had ex boyfriends who had to deal with me being with celebrities all the time. He has tattooed every stripper in town so every where we go it's hot sexy women speaking to him and being very friendly.
Im thinking no problem they pay him good money and he taking care of home so be friendly Oh silly me thinking oh they just like hanging out here because the shop is cool He was the most trifling thing I have ever dated and yes the other artist in there were hoes also but not as bad as he. If you choose to date a tattoo artist like someone said earlier its like dating a celebrity So glad to see Im not alone in struggling through this relationship.
I love my bf so much but im worried about the person he'll become by spending all of his time surrounded by the people in the tattoo industry-people I can't really seem to connect with. I definitely trust him but my biggest issue right now is that i hate hate hate the way the shop treats him.
I worry that they are killing him! Every time he starts to handle the work load better they pile more on. The hours are ridiculous. I understand this is part of it but it's so hard. I want to talk to his boss but I know that's the worst idea. I get that there's this hazing aspect he has to go through, but how am i supposed to sit idly by and let it happen?
He's my boo and i care about his well-being and right now he has none And i have had to learn to keep my opinions about how insane they treat him to myself and just let him vent. But its terrible and creates a wall between us because i can't be honest with him. I used to be honest but then we'd just end up arguing so now I keep my mouth shut around him anyway.
I hate the shop. I think it's all so petty. But I know that's a very juvenile way to feel because he's getting the opportunity to make a living as an artist and that's absolutely the best thing for him-better than having me in his life. I would never let him pick me over tattoing but i really want him to And how long he's going to be treated this way. And how long im willing to put up with it. And how long he's willing to put up with it. Sorry for the rant. Does anyone have any insight into how they coped? It appears from your comments that its not changing any time soon..
Thanks so much for this! Glad I'm not the only one I do have trust issues, even though he's the most trustfull guy there is. I try to work on that 'cause I hate the feeling. I just have this HUGE urge to check what the women look like on facebook while he is tattooing them. I think just to give me some peace of mind but sometimes it makes things worse in my head.. Also have this urge to show up at the tattooshop to show him some love so the female client knows there's someone in his life already.
If I'm honest, I'm worried more about being "stepped on" or "feeling passed" by those women who I know try to flirt. He has proven that over and over. I just canmt stand the feeling of being passed by another women, most of them know he has a girlfriend. They just don't care, think they're better than me, can offer more than me. I would love to teach them a lesson and tell them a thing or two but can't since they're paying clients Now we don't live together anymore, but are back together.
I try to trust him but have horrible insecurities due to his past with his ex and the "breaking up cause he may cheat" we are doing more together now like conventions ect together. But he's not as open now about being back together. Also he broke up with me cause I wasn't "good enough ". What would your advice to them be? I'm gonna try to keep this very short. My boyfriend work at one of the most well known shops in central fl. We lived together for 5 months and HE broke it off cause the family life I have 2 kids not his and tattoo life don't mix.
He wants to travel and up and leave whenever , also broke up with me in the fear of he may cheat on me. Thank you for this really interesting article, I have been with my boyfriend who is tattooist for almost a year and I had been wondering why we have so many squabbles. You've worded everything I've ever wanted to vent out about my frustrations. I get really jealous as he's had to tattoo many of his admirers, followers and even models before which for someone like me who isn't a model it's quite disheartening. Congratulations on your shop!!!
I wish you unlimited success!!! I think the industry is beginning to change, although very slowly, as more women enter the field. You are absolutely correct that not all tattoo artists are pigs and that not all tattoo shops are run this way, but look on average how many men cheat on their women who are not tattoo artists and who do not have constant temptation being thrown in their faces. Plus men can very easily separate having sex with someone and loving their families and their wives.
Which is uncomfortable to think about but the truth of the matter is that men view sex very differently then women do. Anyway, with as many different tattoo shops that I have worked in and with the experiences of almost all of the other female tattoo artists that I have met from across the USA they mirror my own so much it is frankly scary. What I have noticed is that if a girl has either a family member such as a brother, husband, or a boyfriend who works or owns the shop then she will not be harassed, but if none of your family is in the industry expect this behavior.
I think that more women in the tattoo industry need to talk about it more and they need to fight harder for changes and not have the "oh well it is just how the industry is" mentality. Fortunately, I have already took care of all of that nonsense and now I have a fully state licensed private tattoo studio: And thank you for your cyber hug: I am sorry you work ed in a shop with a bunch of pigs.
BUT not every shop or every artist behaves like that. There IS a lot of sexual harassment in this industry, but that's the nature of the beast, My boss has a sign in his tattoo room that says, "Sexual harassment won't be reported, but it will be graded. Some day, I hope you will be successful enough, that you'll be able to start your own shop and you won't have to deal with that. This is a very flirtatious industry.
No, that doesn't excuse the bad behavior you've had to deal with, but if you swim with sharks Take it with a grain of salt and punch the ones that can't take "NO" for an answer. There are amazing things about this industry. Don't let a few jerks ruin your perspective. I am not dating a tattoo artist. I will never ever date a tattoo artist ever.
I am a professional female tattoo artist and have been for many years I have worked in lots of all male tattoo shops and let me just clarify things for all the women out there who want to or are considering dating a male tattoo artist. Ok to put it into perspective do all male rap stars or male rock stars cheat? No not all of them do but do most of them?
The same is with male tattoo artists. Do all of male tattoo artists cheat? No, but sadly most of them do. So when you get into a relationship with a tattoo artist treat it like you are getting into a relationship with a hip hop star, and honestly ask yourself will this hip hop star that has naked women being thrown at himself all the time will he be faithful to me? The answer most of the time is no. And one of these guys that literally said he wanted to do me has been married for 14 years to a very beautiful woman.
He has 3 children with her and they attend church every Sunday morning together Oh and the whole time I was being sexually harassed they all knew that I had a boyfriend and still they tried like hell. Also at many points they would forget that I was at the shop in the back scrubbing tubes and the things that they would say about their wives and their girlfriends on the side and the hot female tattoo client that they just totally banged and they have pictures of and do all you guys wanna see?
Ladies, all I can say is if you feel you aren't good enough to keep him from cheating, then walk away. Like I said before, being a tattoo artist is a constant temptation for some people. You are putting your hands on people and sometimes in an intimate manner. We all like it when someone finds us attractive. There is nothing wrong with appreciating a few nice words that come from your clients. Flirtation is NOT the same as infidelity. With that being said, if your man or woman can't resist the temptation to bang a tattoo groupie.
No one deserves any less that to feel wanted, valued and appreciated by their significant other. I've been with my boyfriend for about a year and we are both in our mid 30's.
He has been struggling with his career path for years and becoming a tattoo artist is his true dream and I've always supported him with it. Im so happy for him and proud of him but deep down inside I'm really scared for our relationship as I know the strain its going to put on us as a couple. He's either going to be at the shop or at work and i fear I won't really fit in anywhere. I work a regular and i fear that we won't ever see each other and i will miss him and be lonely and he will be so consumed that he won't miss me. I trust him but I also get jealous knowing he will be working with female artists and on female clients.
I just wonder if our relationship will survive this or if I will eventually be phased out bc i don't really fit into this new lifestyle. Any tips from any veteran girlfriends about how to make it work during this tough transition time?