It keeps the conversation going and gives them something to respond to.
I made a great vegetarian lasagna a few nights ago. My favorite is baseball. I have an Australian Cattle Dog named River.
I wonder if we have any friends in common. One of the best ways to start a conversation is by asking a question.
Again, it gives them something to respond to. Even better if this can also relate to something they wrote in their profile.
Cut to the chase. Be honest and say what you feel. Suggest meeting for a date. And have a plan. But Are you free for coffee on Thursday?
The more informal standard greetings: There are many words on the effective end of our list like zombie , band , tattoo , literature , studying , vegetarian yes! Talking about specific things that interest you or that you might have in common with someone is a time-honored way to make a connection, and we have proof here that it works. Awkward , sorry , apologize , kinda , and probably all made male messages more successful, yet none of them except sorry affects female messages. A lot of real-world dating advice tells men to be more confident, but apparently hemming and hawing a little works well online.
It could be that appearing unsure makes the writer seem more vulnerable and less threatening.
It could be that women like guys who write mumbly. Mentioning your religion helps you, but, paradoxically, it helps you most if you have no religion. These are the religious terms that appeared a statistically significant number of times. Atheist actually showed up surprisingly often times per 10, messages, second only to mentions of christian and ahead of for jewish and for muslim. But ideally you should just disbelieve the whole thing.
The program then aggregated results by phrase before presenting the data. No one at OkCupid read any actual user messages to compile this post.
Written by Christian Rudder.