john-und.sandra-gaertner.de/lo-que-encuentro-en-tu-boca.php We did not actually have sex, though it was very difficult. In the end, despite that she was very mature for fifteen, the age difference wound up being a problem. That little voice saying it doesn't seem right? Not too many people seem to comprehend the idea that she might actually want to have sex with you. This is a distinct possibility that complicates things further.
Shame about the law, but there it is. A friend of mine dated a girl that was under 18 in Phoenix, AZ. He was probably 19 or This was a few years back, so I don't remember exact age. But, he got consent from the parents and started dating this chick. A month down the road, he pissed the girl off, which in turn pissed off the parents and they took it to the cops. They warned him to stay away, but how could he? He already spent a month dating this chick like every day and he wanted to work things out.
And you know she probably only stayed upset for like a day or two, while the parents never forgot. So while trying to work things out picking her up from school, taking her out more, etc he somehow ended up in prison for few years. I guess the moral of the story is that parents can change their mind about consent while you too are deeply in love. Run away right now.
Especially with this discussion here, now, in the public record. When I was 15 I briefly dated a guy about your age. There were upsides and downsides but ultimately it didn't work out. I couldn't go to bars with him which was a pain. His friends' girlfriends were older and thought I was too young and weren't particilarly nice about it. He wanted to have sex and I didn't want to. In my world this was normal and in his world it totally wasn't. When I stayed out late with him it was, again, normal for him and really not normal for me.
In fact, my Mom flipped out once when I came home at 3 am and threatened to have him arrested for statutory. That fight has created a rift between us to this day my Mom and I. In the end, we broke up because I didn't want to have sex with him.
In looking back at it, he was somewhat immature and generally into dating high school girls, which seemed cool to me, a high school girl, at the time, but now I'm sort of like "what was he thinking? If it were me, I'd wait and see what college brings her, assuming she'll ber more independent from her family, out on her own etc. On the off chance that she's the one for you, she'll still be there. Do you remember the old saying, "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned"? Ok, good, my work here is done for those of you who are late to the game.
Congreve posted by bilabial at 8: I know a guy who is in jail for multiple years for a consensual relationship with an underage girl she was You don't want nothin' to do with this. Be nice, but be clear that she is too young for you to date. Recommend she date some young men nearer her own age. Even without the "jailbait" angle, this guy could murder you or get a cop buddy to do it and get away with it. You could be shot while "resisting arrest" or something; not too long ago a cop in my city shot a guy in the back as he was running away "because he feared for his life".
I say date her. Try to stay out of jail. This means having a little sexual discipline, but it isn't like you can't touch each other. Try to take it very slow. She's really young and naive and her parents are divorced so she'll have some issues. This is always essential when dating. Be open and honest with yours. Having a cop in the family is always good. What a bunch of whiners on this thread. Like age gaps never worked out in relationships.
Check out the divorce rate. Being the same age never helped anyone. I agree with almost all others. Wait until she is 18 to start dating her. If you fall in love for 'er and 'er and get married, it'll be a romantic story. I would run run run run from any grown man who dated a high school girl. Sorry, there should be a sentence between sentence 2 and 3: If you don't, there are two things that will happen- you'll stay together until you die, or you'll break up.
If you fall in love A friend of mine, at the age of 22 or so, started dating a year-old. He learned the valuable lesson that if you actually have to look up statutory rape laws in your area to make sure your relationship is legal, you really shouldn't be in that relationship. A good friend of mine discovered a beautiful girl who wanted a relationship with him He didn't let it happen They've been married over 30 years now and have raised 3 great kids. Wait it out, be a family friend or what not till then. I tried that with some one older than me once. Turned out, I was in love and he just wanted to bang me.
It is good to get perspective on intentions for all parties. Let's keep this simple. Your question was, is it okay socially and legally for you date this girl? The answer is no, and no. Just a recap of what I said before I don't intend, now, to go after some sort of relationship with her. One thing I don't understand is why love keeps coming up.
This is me, I went out with a 16 year old lad when I was 20, some people are mature at that age others not so much, he was the mature type. He is going out with a girl that just turned 16 in January! well its legal in england dunno bout where you live so meh .. however i still think it is weird for a 21 year old guy to be dating a 16 year old im 19 years old and i wouldn't even think of.
I don't know about you guys but I can't fall in love with someone after a month a month of not dating even. I've only been in one relationship before this, it lasted five years and I'm not totally sure I was in love with her, as I have nothing to compare it too. FauxScot thank you for the kind words. I do somewhat pride myself on my logical more then emotional outlook on life, and thinking things through is just something I do it's just the way I am.
Sadly I often over think things, and that as well has caused problems with past and possible relationships. I'd stay away - someone that age has so much growing to do still emotionally, and being so young, at some point she'll want to see other people - just leading to heart break.
Just adding to the chorus Seriously don't do it. Even if for some really bizarre reason her parents are fine with it, that means they're fine with it now. That doesn't mean they'll still be fine with it tomorrow or after a few weeks or after a few months. Take that thought even further, if they decide to press charges admittingly far-featched but still very possible, dad's a cop yo. You're a 21 year old man going after a 16 year old girl. Right or wrong, you have no defense.
I tried that with some one older than me once. What a bunch of whiners on this thread. You'll get crap from other people if the age discrepancy is apparent, but from the sound of it, it isn't. According to a recent British research conducted by the Centre for Family and Household Research, "an increasing proportion of young people are sexually active below the age of consent". See what she says. Seriously don't do it.
Seriously, don't do it. Statutory rape laws are stupid and vary from state to state. What matters greatly is the circumstances, mainly whether her parent s are likely to have you busted and declared a Sex Offender or not. By the way, does it strike anybody else as stupid that consensual relations with a young woman who's legal in the next state can ruin someone's life, and that a lot of employers etc. Admittedly this sounds less likely than ruining your life by making sure you become a Registered Sex Offender, but still.
My advice is don't do it because it's "wrong" it isn't or because it's illegal so's pot , but don't do it because her father is a cop.
If you do insist on being involved with her then make sure you always drive the speed limit, never drink and drive, never possess any illegal substances, try to follow the letter of every law you can think of, and let her win every argument she thinks is important. You'd basically be mortgaging your manhood and your sanity for fear she really will "Tell Daddy on you.
I was a "mature for my age" and year-old too. Like jessamyn, I very briefly dated a year-old with whom I broke up because I didn't want to have sex. I also dated a really, really nice guy who put the brakes on due to my age and always behaved appropriately.
I remember him fondly, but while it seemed like a big deal at the time, I really just went out with him a couple of times right before I left for college. Looking back, echoing brittanie, I was more flattered by the attention than really interested. I would say that your position depends mostly on the character and disposition of the people who could pose a threat to your relationship.
As for the age difference being a problem between just you and her, I don't think it would be fair to you or her to not give the relationship a chance based on that. You'll never know if it's a deal-breaker or not unless you let the relationship run it's course. This applies to any conflict that comes up in the early parts of a relationship. I was 16 when I started by relationship with my fiance, who was She isn't even an adult yet!
Also she is 16 there is literally no future in it for you. You will not be her last boyfriend if you go through with this. Saying she's mature for a 16 year old doesn't make her an adult! She is still of school age and you're old enough to be a graduate with a full time job If you go through with it you will get a lot of adversity from people thinking you're a creep and tbh I wouldn't blame them.
I wonder what her parents would think. Report 2 years ago Big nay to me I was with a 16 year old at 21 and while i would probably not repeat the experience i can say that social norms had nothing to do with it she was batcrap crazy. OP, if you desire the girl then claim your prize. Original post by JS I've began messaging and after the usual small talk and flirtatious banter she told me she was actually 16 and not 19 as her profile had said.
Original post by Baleroc This is a complicated case, so asking it on TSR isn't the best idea, since you can lead yourself into trouble. Firstly, to address the age gap: More specifically, she is underage to consent. You have to be 18 before you are able to legally consent to anything that is why you cannot sign contracts until then, etc. Casual conversations, meet-ups that is, meeting at a Coffee shop, or restaurant in a public place , and discussions is fine - provided they aren't overly sexual , and, you keep your distance e. My advice to you is this: At this time, you can do whatever you want, but while she is 16, you have to be particularly careful about what you say, and do, with this person.
Just because other people are doing it, does not mean you should too. They could be breaking the law. In summary, you can continue speaking to her - which is fine. However, sending any explicit images, or messages, may not be 'lawful', since she is under age. I would recommend for you to wait until she is 18, before progressing with this relationship.
Lastly, here's some advice for you take: People on TSR including myself can only 'guide' you, but we do not know exactly what is best in these situations. I'm 21, and I would never date a 16year old. But then again, I'm a girl though so it might be different. Original post by the bear tbh even if she says she is 16 she could be younger Original post by cherryred90s I'm 21, and I would never date a 16year old.
The dilemma I have a year-old daughter who I believe is in a relationship with a year-old man. It's been going on since she was around 17, when she began babysitting for his children.
When I ask her about it, she flatly denies it, but she is an attractive girl who has never shown any interest in guys her own age, and she lies to me about where she is going. We have had a troubled relationship for a number of years, although she's still living at home. I split up from her father five years ago and although I have a reasonably amicable relationship with him, my daughter does not. He's in a new relationship and chooses to believe what he wants; he points out that she's off his hands now she is over I am fed up with her lying to me, but she is my child and I want the best for her.
Should I confront her with her father there, too? Should I speak to the man she is having the relationship with? I don't know what to do. I'm not really sure what your goal here is - and I'm fairly certain that you're equally in the dark. Is your intention to get her to end the relationship, to encourage her to confide in you in order to improve the relationship between you, or to have a family showdown? Your husband may not be all you hoped for, but he's certainly got a point. Your child is now an adult and any jot of juristic control that you once had over her comings and goings and general choices in life is no longer in effect.