here If the age-gap between you is significant, his health becomes an important issue. Even if he is in good health now, the chances that he will become ill or suffer an injury increase with age. Are you okay with the fact that you might have to take care of him?
Do you accept that he might not always be able to be as active as you and that you might have to forgo activities that you enjoy because of him? It's not pleasant to think about, you need to take his health into account. Yes No I need help 6 Do you have common interests? While it's not necessary that you enjoy all of the same things, having some common ground is crucial to having a lasting relationship regardless of the age difference between you. However, it becomes harder to find that common ground when your partner is much older, and the reason is simple: You won't have common experiences from your growing up years; you won't know any of the television shows he grew up watching nor will the music of his youth make much sense to you.
He might think that the music you like is noise, and he many not get Instagram or Twitter. On the other hand, if you share other interests, such a love for Science Fiction novels or share the same political beliefs, your other differences may not matter.
What is the acceptable minimum age for your own (and others') dating partners? When this question comes up in conversation, someone inevitably cites the. I have this rule: if I could absolutely never bring this person home to my dad, I can 't date them. My question is, is there such a thing as “too old”? Does it differ.
Yes No I need help 7 Examine why you want to date an older man. Some women like older men because they can provide more financial security than a younger man can. Some women like older men because they are mature, whereas men their own age still have a lot of growing up to do. Whatever your reasons are, they are valid and acceptable, but you should analyze them all the same.
It's part of knowing getting to know yourself. Yes No I need help 8 Does he have children?
If he has children and you decide that you have a future together, those kids will be in your life for as long as you are with this man, and maybe after if you have a good relationship with them. If you marry him, you will be their stepmother, a very difficult position to navigate. If the children are grown and close to your age, or older, there will be some awkwardness, for sure. You need to be prepared for it and accept it.
Yes No I need help 9 What do your friends, and his friends think of the relationship? I was reading this story about this girl who was dating a guy who was fifteen years older than her, and one of the challenges she mentioned was that he didn't fit in with her friends and she didn't fit in with his. He tried too hard to get her friends to like him and came off hopelessly out of touch while his friends thought she was after his money.
You may not face the same challenges, especially if the age gap between you is less than 10 years, but as with cultural references, it may be impossible for either of you to fit into each other's social circle. Yes No I need help 10 What life stage are you in? Another cause of friction in relationships with significant age differences comes down to being in different stages of life. For instance, if he has grown children, he may be past the stage of life for raising kids; he may not want any more, while you haven't even entered that stage yet.
Another one involves partying: Yes No I need help 11 What do you want out of the relationship? This is probably the most important factor of them all: If both of you are just having fun and you don't see being with each other long-term, then nothing else matters. However, if you see a future with this guy, then you need to carefully consider whether or not you can handle the challenges you will face, especially if there is a large age gap between you.
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Examine why you want to date an older man. What do your friends, and his friends think of the relationship. What do you want out of the relationship. VisiHow welcomes all comments.
I created a survey. Although I could have hit the streets of New York and surveyed people in-person Buunk style, I decided to mTurk my survey. I try to avoid as much social interaction in my daily life as possible. This can vary from transcribing a movie, to identifying an item on a receipt, to taking a survey about hypothetical romantic relationships.
Within a few days I got responses: As John and Lauren got older, however, the creepiness rule differed from how people actually responded. Yet according to the survey, 37 was well outside the age range of what is socially acceptable. The results also showed that the creepiness rule is too restrictive about how old you can date when you are young, but becomes too lenient as you get older.
Yet, people surveyed were fine with John and Lauren seeing someone in their early 30's. When John and Lauren are 60, the creepiness rule allows them to date anyone older than themselves the official cap is However, society places more restrictive age limits of 71 and 75 respectively. Overall, the creepiness rule does not accurately represent what people find socially acceptable; people are more judgmental than what the creepiness rule implies. If the creepiness rule is wrong, then I needed a new rule to guide my non-existent love life.
As I reviewed the data, I realized that one rule was not enough. When it comes to dating older, women have the advantage. According to the survey, a 20 year-old John can date someone who is However, when Lauren is 30, she is supposed to date someone who is at least I not only created separate rules for men and women but also created different rules to determine how old and how young each gender can date.
Some women like older men because they are mature, whereas men their own age still have a lot of growing up to do. Even if he is in good health now, the chances that he will become ill or suffer an injury increase with age. Yet according to the survey, 37 was well outside the age range of what is socially acceptable. It's not pleasant to think about, you need to take his health into account. If anything, consider it a "ballpark" figure.
The charts below compares the outputs of the revised rules with the predictions of the original creepiness rule. In almost all scenarios, the revised rules are more restrictive than what the creepiness rule would suggest. I think there are opportunities to build on this oh-so-important research.