My advice is to not take the dating world too seriously. If you're looking for something more then perhaps you're not ready yourself. Live your life and have fun making new friends and experiences. Everything else will fall into place. Hell, I didn't find my groove until my late 30's. And I had a blast then so many stories. It's all dependent on how you approach dating, those around you, and life in general I'm not sure, where are you finding dates with people? I'm using OKCupid myself to I've used OKC on and off. But it seems like everyone there is either looking to hook up, or has ridiculous expectations.
I can agree with the latter part for sure, and have definitely heard a lot of the former from other women. Out of curiosity what's your general age range that you're looking at? From the sound of it I'd guess you're dealing with people in their 20s? I mean, I'm 23, but I try to avoid dating in my own age range. I usually date early 30s.
I have found you in the wilderness of the Internet. Allow me to submit my application for your review as I am indeed the older gentleman you have been seeking 30's, been busting my ass to get this dadbod. Back off she's mine! You don't want to know how many Krispy kremes I've eaten to get this soft armor around my waist!! I've definitely noticed a lot of women in their 20s look for men in their 30s.
How does the fact that she avoids dating in her own age range make her part of the problem?
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Yes it seems that the girls here that get all the attention from te eyuppies are the fake blondes with plastic tits and orange tans who think wearing jeans and a slutty top is being fashionable. Please they look nothing more than. Anyways I prefer Raleigh because being such an educated population there seems to be a feeling going around the male population; They really take a liking to different types of beauties.
From the ethereal waifs, goth, rock chicks, glamazons, minimalist artsy types etc. I was hoping to get some insight for some good singles spots in both cities.
My single friend just moved to Raleigh from CA. She is in her 40's, professional, fun, loves sports and no ties. She is looking to meet professional men - any ideas??? Charlotte atleast feels like a city. The Triangle is so spread out. If we could only take the educated people from the Triangle and plop them down in a somewhat real city like Charlotte, then it would be a lot better here.
And the tale of two cities rolls on! Historically, Raleigh and Charlotte have always tried to one up each other! They both seem to be fairly safe and offer a wide variety of social activity, depending on what you are looking for. The people are friendly no matter your job or background, unless you are a one of the annoying tourists that can't drive.
I used to think Raleigh had a better social scene than Charlotte - back when I was in college 10 years ago. Now that I'm a little older I have a greater appreciation for Charlotte's more upscale scene. Raleigh's relaxed friendliness seems more appealing at first, but after a few years the frumpy atmosphere gets boring and repetitive. Charlotte may not have as much variety as larger cities, but if you try you can always find something new to do. In Raleigh, after a while you find yourself doing the same things over and over, and the RTP area starts feeling very clausterphobic.
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Although I've been married now for seven years, I can tell you that the singles scenes in both Charlotte and Raleigh are for the birds. I was born in Charlotte, raised in Gaston County, went to college in Raleigh, and have lived in Charlotte most of my post-college life. I met my wife at a place you wouldn't typically think of for blossoming romances--the Post Office.
We've had ups and downs, but I wouldn't trade her for anything. Heaven forbid anything happen to her or our marriage--I'd just assume head back to Gaston County and join the monks over at Belmont Abbey. I am a 30 year old African American female with a professional career. I recently moved here last August from Durham. I lived in the RTP for 6 years.
I have noticed that many of the people here are very "cliquish" and "snooty". I've tried to experience everything that I can in Charlotte from the nite clubs, parties, games, and other social events, but haven't had any real luck in meeting too many new people and making new friends which is hard in your 30s. I think that Charlotte is great compared to Raleigh-Durham, but I can't find the single men anywhere. However, the ones I do find seem to be very snotty acting and I'm a down to earth, can shop at Wal-Mart and Nordstroms kind of girl.
R-D is great for your college years and focussing on the medical profession for sure. But, Charlotte is definitely more corporate oriented and grown up. West Raleigh, really captures the "college town" atmosphere.
Keg parties, football games, young college students living out all of their early life lessons the hardway.. Center Raleigh, NC is really the heart of The city with the "Artspaces" coffee shops, hemp furniture? East Raleigh is slightly more urban, but with a middle class twist. So it really depends on what you're interests are, and where you think you might find people you can relate to.
But finally as for the "Single scene" you just have to find the neighborhood bar, club or grocery store that fits. Thanks for all of your comparisons! It's interesting to see how everyone views Raleigh and Charlotte, with some vast differences in opinions. I lived in the Raleigh area since college for 15 years. Chapel Hill, Durham, Raleigh, Cary. It's a great place to go to school, have a career in high-tech field or medicine.
Then I moved to Charlotte, which has a bigger diverse feel. But along that comes with more crime. So Raleigh has fresh young innovations while Charlotte has more older sophisticated feel. That's probably about right. Both are great places.
If anyone lives in Charlotte and they are single www. Okay first, I've never lived in either city. However you people are sadly confused, I live in Charleston and I am in my late 20's, I do not go out to bars looking for my wife, I go there because it's a meat market just like in every other city in americe. I'm going to help all you people out, especially the women in there 30's that move to Charlotte and go to the night life scene and then complain because you cant get a date. Theres a reason your surrounded by Pam Anderson types and the guy's there aren't interested in you, you simply can't compete.
Furthermore, why would you, get out of that, go places that display your common interest's that you would look for in a suitable mate, I for one meet women at the dog park. I love animals, I want a woman that loves animals, wow what a concept.
However after spending 5 years as a bartender in Charleston's meat market for the 18 to 28 year old demographic, I have learned that your going to the wrong place and then downing the city for it's lack of a social scene. Let's review, bar's are meat market's, guess what, a guy isn't going to hit on a girl in a bar that he doesn't think is attractive, he doesn't know you, he doesn't know you make mean banana pancakes while listening to Elvis Costello, naked on a Sunday mornings.
All we know is were drunk and if we'd like to be inside of you or not. Does that sound like your soulmate, hell no. Does that mean your cities got a bad singles scene, know that means your not physically attractive at 35 compared to a bunch of 22 year olds running around a bar, espicially not to other 22 year olds, not unless you go under the knife on a monthly basis.
Men fall in love with there eyes, women fall in love with there ears, think about it and give my passed away grandmother credit for the quote, I'm out. There is nothing to do for someone in their thirties. Believe me, I was all gung ho about moving here and now I regret it.
Don't get me wrong it's very safe and beautiful.. There is no nightlife and everyone goes home before 2am. And yes this is a perfect place for someone in their 20s verses someone in their 30s.
To top things off.. From what I've read Charlotte seems to be a better place to live. At least there is a "city" feel to it. I think I will check it out because Raleigh is for old retired people wanting a quiet life.
Such a big disappointment. I couldn't be more excited. Raleigh is where everyone in college hangs around waiting tables. Charlotte seems like it is for people actually doing something with their life!