For first cousins the risk is the same as a woman who has a child after age 40, so second cousins must be even lower than that.
Strictly speaking, societies in which first cousins marrying and producing offspring were not uncommon in the past. Heck, from what I've read, the chances of genetic deformity in offspring of such a union are pretty slim, almost to the level of non-blood-related. Mind you, that chance multiplies with each successive cousin-marriage, so take that into consideration, but My point is that second cousins dating, while incredibly, stupendously weird, shouldn't really be an issue biologically.
Especially since they're obviously not close enough relationally to even know they were cousins at first.
If they had grown up together and whatnot, it'd cause all kinds of havoc throughout the family, but this doesn't sound that bad. Second cousins share a great-grandparent. There's blood there, and relatively rimshot close blood. As long as they are happy together, it shouldn't matter. I mean why do you even care OP, it doesn't affect you. You should but out of other peoples relationships. See this is what I always said to him and when he's say "well why not" then I didn't really have an answer accept to scrunch my face and look like I'd like went down on a lemon.
Why is it wrong for cousins to date but not homosexuals? If two people want to be romantically involved, regardless of their relation, who am I to say they can't? So long as they don't have babies because then their relationship actually harms someone else-- the baby I see nothing wrong with it. People seem to ridicule people for dating someone related. I suppose it's not quite as trendy as the pro-gay stance everyone has been taking lately, so that's why.
Sifiso Eze February 3, 5: They passed down those strong genes associated with survival, unlike the houses of Europe that intermarried and passed down hemophilia. One in ten children from these cousin marriages either dies in infancy or develops a serious life-threatening disability. The information contained within had a fresh twist on the subject of cousin marriages opposed to other information that can be readily viewed on the internet. You need to be a member in order to leave a comment. And scientific geniuses like Albert Einstein and Charles Darwin married their cousins, too. Archives and third cousins.
It's probably more of a cultural thing than anything, but it doesn't make sense to date someone so closely related when there are tons of fish in the sea. Oh hell I dunno how to expand that out.
He just showed up at a party one night with this girl then couple days later made the mistake of telling me and some others they were second cousins. Never thought to give him the "Oh but Brah there are so many non related fish in the sea. I mean, he has the option to fish out in the ocean, and he's choosing his own swimming pool lol. I'm reminded of my first week in Tennessee and hearing an employee at Wal-Mart talking abotu wanting to date his sister or cousin or something because they get along so well.
Get an ad-free experience with special benefits, and directly support Reddit. Filter posts by subject: I dont want our families to know but it will cause alot of trouble and its not acceptable. Okay i understand your advice. I guess its all up to us now.
Is it possible to just spend time together getting to know each other while enjoying each others company?? The more time you spend together you'll know what is in your heart making your choices more clear.
hi. i am getting to the point. a second cousin, never knew exisited. and we both fell for each other and honestly feel the love. kept a secret from. Thans for R2A, see if you talk about society and family they they even do not like if boy girl fall in love, forget about cousin or first cousin or sister or whatever.
Hey I'm from Arizona to been married to my half cousin, going to be two years in December thank God! And I've been looking for other cousin couples to connect with who are from Arizona. The weather has been nice lately. But definitely take Lady Cs advice it will go a long way for you and bring much blessing to you. You've said 3 times that you know this relationship will not work out. So why waste your time?
If you want someone to date causally there are plenty of young men that you could have that with. It seems to me that the drama of a cousin relationship is not worth a short-lived romance. Keep looking for someone who you can be with for the long term. If you think that the cousin status makes the relationship un-viable for the long term, you are mistaken. There are plenty of cousin couples who have been together for years.
There are also plenty of cousin couples who called it quits fairly quickly. You two are 2nd cousins and there are no moral, legal or religious obstacles in your way, only your own fear.
DO NOT let fear get in your way of pursuing what could be a fabulous relationship. My cousin has been the love of my life since I was younger than you I'm now old enough to be your mother! For decades we let fear come between us. Then two years ago we ran into each other, realized the old flame was still alive and have been blissfully together ever since.
Do you know how many times we have expressed to each other how foolish we were not to commit to each other years ago? Why didn't we do this when we were younger? Could we have avoided some difficulties in our lives if we had just pushed fear aside and made a go of it?
I would hate for that to happen to you. I don't have a crystal ball that can tell you if your cousin is going to be the love of your life. I can tell you that if you avoid this because of fear, you may wake up one day and wish that you had a least given it a shot when you had the chance.