If I put my mind to it, I can come up with more couples I know with that age gap….. So if the Shidduch is. Dunno, in rare cases a big age gap works.
Dont bring the chazon ish or even the steipler into this. I realize that fate has put you in a disadvantage in the shidduch world, but you have allowed your emotions to completely devour your rational thought. I am always amazed how people want black and white, one-size-fits-all answers for everything. Obviously it depends on the couple. The reason older men frequently marry younger women is because they have chiyuv to have children whether or not they already have some it is still a mitzvah.
But if the guy is a few years older and it works, good for them. When you are talking about older men and older women it is not an issue. I know of these glick shidduchim who made it as far as 3 weeks before the wedding when both parties realized they had nothing in common and called it off. So we can all pull something out of our memories whether it worked on not, but it is not a good idea to begin with.
What about for older singles. How do they feel about it? It seems to me that with the shidduch crisis and the difficulty in finding guys to date that women should be more open about age gaps. How young can I guy date? There is supposed to be a the rule of thumb. It goes like this.
A guy can date a girl half his age plus 7; so an 22 year old can date a 19 year old, a 28 year old can date a 21 year old and a 36 year old can date a 25 year old. Nothing wrong with it. I know many, many couples 10 plus years apart and happily married. My parents are 10 years apart. My brother and his wife are also 10 years apart. My husband is 7 years older then me. Actually I find the older boys to be more established and settled. All I hear is Shadchanim are overworked underpaid and under appreciated.
Do you want to know how I feel about that? If you cant handle the heat, get outta the kitchen!
Always been that way. Do you think I am over reacting? What can a woman do to become more attractive? The ones that keep trying, even though they may not have gotten it right on the first few tries. It is common for a year old guy to have no plans for his future. Symptoms, Causes, and Treatments. Obligatory Chris Hansen photo:
A more important question: A man who marries a woman 15 years younger than he is will leave her a widow for at least 20 years. And, if they have children, most likely she will be left with the youngest one or two to marry off.
Especially the ones who mistreated me or my children! I hate them, hate them, hate them!
Im sure there are those who hate me… What can I say?!? Now, please take out your magic wand, Sac. Now, how would you suggest singles in the frum community meet, starting today? Midwest2 — Another angle: These are the women who cause the early demise of the man. My grandfather outlived my grandmother by a few years and he was sick first. And they were the same age.
There are good women out there. Divorced guy — if you are 36, I sincerely hope you are not trying to date girls in their early-mid twenties. And just to let you know, many girls, aged , whom I know personally, who go to Singles events, DETEST it when divorced guys in the group hit on them. It totally creeps them out that a guy that much older than they, is trying to get their number. Nothing wrong with a guy marrying a girl half his age. With friends and family as shadchanim, like most people do and the vast majority of shidduchim come from.
This is the preferred torah way. Your definition of being polite, only causes the male to keep trying, and then this causes the female to build up more resentment. Just to clarify, are you saying that any woman who outlives a husband of similar age caused him to die?
Reality is when my phone rings all evening and my kids after school have to help with the phones. Reality is going to bed with a stomach ache knowing how many people are counting on you and wondering how you will possibly manage to get to everyone. Do u think its fun going to a wedding and not taking a seat. Why should people pay for me when I barely can sit down. I miss my chance to catch up with friends at a wedding. The pay certainly stinks.
The typical extremely busy shadchan makes MAYBE 10 shidduchim a year and max from both sides totals 3k per shidduch which almost never happens. That is most certainly NOT worth the bother it takes.
It is very clear from my wording that I have a problem with Shadchanim who treat girls like merchandise. It is those Shadchanim that should be applauded! The ones that keep trying, even though they may not have gotten it right on the first few tries. The Shadchanim who care enough to return calls and emails. The ones who realize that being single is hard enough without making you feel like they are doing you the worlds biggest favor by speaking to you, these are Shadchanim deserving the title Shadchan.
The people who tell you to leave messages on their machines only to get the recording that the mailbox is full. The ones that label a girls worth by her fathers bank account. The ones who charge up front. So dont tell me its thankless and youre overworked, because thats your job.
Most people in America will tell you that they feel under appreciated and under compensated at work, but this is the profession you chose.
Wow, you have really taken on a hot topic! But simply put, to me, it is your motive. If your answer for dating someone so much younger is something you hesitate to post; then it is obvious you are wrong for doing so. What I found was kind of surprising. When men message women, women tend to respond most often to men around their own ages. A year-old woman will have better luck messaging a year-old man than a year-old one, according to the data.
And a year-old man is more likely to respond to a message from a year-old woman than a message from any other age group.
When women make the first move, the age gap dating norm is reversed. I asked my friend Trevor, a year-old mathematician, what he made of it. They have more interesting jobs and hobbies, and their profiles are just better … no stupid selfie-only profiles. Did that explain it? Across all ages, straight women write shorter profiles than straight men.
And then there are those year-old women who really clean up with the year-old dudes. Cindy has been dating men in their 20s for the past 15 years. Working in tech, she sometimes feels she has more in common with somethings than older men. When I spoke with women who message much younger men on OkCupid, most of them told me something similar. I have no desire to have a man telling how I should be conducting my life. But I have been on dates with guys some 10 years older, and my feelings are this: The odds are in your favor if you do.
Written and researched by Dale Markowitz. Graphics by Hanna Kim.
That's kind of how it is to be 20 years old hanging out with a year-old. They are dating a kid. Dating someone significantly older than you makes it easier for. I'm 18 and I wouldnt even go out with a 15 year old. . it cradle robbing (20/2 = 10 + 7 = 17 = the youngest person he should be dating) but im.