My spouse works a regular, well-paying corporate job.
My spouse and I own a house together, and overall have merged finances, though we each have a modest amount of money in individual accounts. She maintains and pays for her own apartment, but also keeps things at our house.
Vicki summed up why poly dating can be a significant expense: Though I find when I date men, even poly men, they often fall into traditional gender roles and want to pay. Vicki echoed this idea: Both Diana and Vicki talked about saving money by having Netflix dates at home in lieu of going out to a restaurant or show. Lila lives alone in a rent-controlled apartment so I spent a ton of weekends at her place.
How does dating other people factor into money? To be blunt, since you date others, do you ever have less to spend on and with one another? The main resource that becomes an issue in polyamorous setups is time. We both believe that freedom to date others is most realistic to maintaining a long-term relationship.
So many monogamous set-ups fail. So, the time spent with others feels like an investment for our long-term relationship.
I get the sense that right now you both live financially independent lives, and split things — do you ever see that changing should you get married or move in together? And neither of us are sure how we feel about marriage. We might end up being bi-coastal, we might end up sharing a place in New York and talking about marriage for the tax benefits — so much could change in a year given our lifestyles.
Does money ever have an erotic component? He did buy me this beautiful LELO purple whip recently. You guys do such a fantastic job.
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