It means she can't see herself hooking up with him when she's sober so she drinks to encourage herself to do it. Because if this was about a guy only hooking up with a girl when HE was drunk, then it means the girl is ugly. She doesn't want to deal with the responsibility of commitment. When she drunk hooks up, she can safely give excuses for her behaviour the next day.
If she's sober, she will have to face the responsibility and your questions.
Women drink to increase "plausible deny-ability" Women have a deep fear, an insecurity that makes them afraid to look like a slut. Especially from their piers. Women are deeply sensitive about what other people think of them, especially other women. That's why, as a man you shouldn't kiss and tell.
Suppose he goes around telling everyone he had sex with her, what could she do? That's another reason why women hook up like crazy when they go on long vacations.
Because none of their friends back home can find out about some guy they had sex with in a foreign country. Women are not going to hook up with a guy, by drinking, if they think a guy is "ugly". It almost never happens. The odds of that being the case are like a billion to one. We are starting the sail at Can you make it? You have a boat? Business was going good so I got myself one last year.
And the conversation could continue in so many different ways, all beneficial for you if you used the second approach. Instead of telling her how cool, brave, rich, smart, reliable you are, simply show her that through your lifestyle. Simply live your life as you live it per usual and simply show her that. You can simply take her to your favorite coffee shop where the staff treats you like family, or invite her over for a movie where she can see the pictures from your travels on your apartment walls.
When she sends you a message or demands that you talk to her, invest time in her and in general be available to her, you need to chill out a bit and not respond immediately. Because you have just shown her your cool life and now, she is hooked on you and she wants to get to you know you more. If you take a ball of string and tease the cat with it, holding it so close but yet out of the reach, she will constantly jump around to take it, thus keeping itself interested in it. If the cat gets the ball, she will play with it for a while but then lose interest.
So by making yourself there, but a bit out of reach, she will simply want you more. This basically means that she should know that you have other girls in your life and that other girls want your time. You can use social media effectively for this by showing off with other girls via Facebook, Instagram or Snapchat. Brand of any company is a perceived value and you as a guy can have the same thing. We want more of the things we perceive valuable and if other people want it to, then the perceived value of the item grows.
So the more women want you, the more value you will appear to have. Ok, you are a busy guy with an amazing lifestyle and a lot of girls around you. If you make her feel this important in your life by making her your world for the next one or four hour, you will get yourself a great girlfriend. Wow, what a boring movie… I mean person. Leave many places mysterious but you can drop some small hints here and there. Let her want to know you more and explore everything you are instead of you simply telling her everything.
And she will be on a quest to discover who you are. Remember the cat string theory here — give her just enough to keep her hooked but not everything to grow bored. I did this thing with an audience of people when I started telling them about my internship to Russia. So the authorities deported me back to Turkey. But then, all hell broke loose and the government in Turkey locked me up in the jail at the airport. But what followed in the jail was the most difficult day in my life.
This is also something borrowed from the evolutionary biology where tribes would fight together if there was a bigger threat endangering all of them. During this time of crisis, you become so cohesive against something out there that you act like a single individual. And by creating this kind of scenario, you two get this internal cohesion against something out there.
Framing the conversation this way happens naturally over a longer period of time, but if you want it to happen fast, then you should use polarization. We have covered a lot here, from the initial dilemma of you actually wanting to date the girl or not. We had a small checklist there with 4 questions you should have answered for yourself.
She doesn't want to deal with the responsibility of commitment. When she drunk hooks up, she can safely give excuses for her behaviour the next day. If she's. Oct 25, I'm crazy about her, but as soon as she sobers up, it's like I'm put back in the friend zone. to get us both drunk. Why can she only sleep with me when she's high? The woman insists on being "strictly friends"? Then as a.
The 4 questions were related to: The Honeymoon phase 2. Relationship fitting your lifestyle right now and, 4. The dual approval of heart and mind.
Only when you have answered these questions and decided that you want to date a hookup, is when we went into pieces of advice on turning a hookup girl into someone you date. Making a real connection 2. Making it about more than just booty calls 3. Talking about relationships in general 4. Asking about her life 5.
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