Don't alienate your friends. It is so easy to become so engulfed in a significant other that friends just don't seem as fulfilling anymore. However, friends keep you sane when your partner is driving you crazy.
Also, if something goes wrong, you'll need your core group of friends to hold you up and be there for you. While you can't avoid your friends, you can't include them in every aspect of your relationship. Having middle men and friends that like to interfere 'help' only makes problems worse.
High schools are full of rumors and drama - don't get sucked into arguments caused by something a friend of a friend might have seen. Whether you're 15 or 55, keeping open communication with the person you're dating is absolutely essential. Most of bad break-ups and horrible fights of high school dating could have been avoided if the couple had made an effort to talk to one another about problems instead of jumping to conclusions.
Don't push your boundaries, and don't let anyone else cross them. If you don't know what the boundaries are in your relationship, establish them before you end up in an uncomfortable situation. Once you know your boundaries, demand that they be respected. Remember - boundaries aren't just physical. Sometimes the strongest boundaries are mental, or emotional. In fact, it was four years after my friend and I created the above list before a guy asked me out. Now that Caleb and I are dating, I do kinda wish I had some sort of experience in dating to fall back on.
But I do wish I had some sort of experience to help me out. I had time to serve my church and hang out with my friends whenever I wanted. If you would like to download a free copy of this list with room to add your own pros and cons, you can access that via the freebies page.
Find out how to access the freebie. This post has 6 comments. Women need to be mindful of biological clocks. God designed our bodies to be dating by high school age. The hormones are definitely flowing by that time. What a great article!!
I am 46 and I read this for my wonderful, beautiful, daughter, so she can have some good advice. I think you are right — dating is prep for marriage. Rather, just have good friends in high school, have fun, begin to learn things and achieve somethings. Go to college and find an interesting field, travel a little and then look for people on the same path along the way, similar spiritual views and life perspective is helpful.
There are other people who are waiting to be with you. I went through high school without a girlfriend, so I accused of being a homosexual, and any ministry I have was ruined forever. Find a School Choose your subject: This means that grades slip or they end up without any friends because they have pushed them away. Keep a journal to get your frustrations out or write a letter when you're mad that gets torn up and thrown away after it's been written. It might have been the way he ended it with me, but I absolutely could not get over the pain. In your high school years, a lot of people are very immature, so if you're someone who is more mature for your age, you may find the whole high school dating thing to be a waste of time.
Marriage is about lifelong teamwork, no spouse is perfect and there are lots of conflicts you have to learn to deal with, we are always changing as individuals, so even the person you marry will change. Character lasts appearances fade. Going through high school without dating was the worst mistake I ever made! I went through high school without a girlfriend, so I accused of being a homosexual, and any ministry I have was ruined forever.
You too may feel like you don't have a lot to contribute to the conversation, but your experience is valuable. Listening with a caring ear and sharing from your heart can make a significant difference in someone's life. If you are a parent, don't hesitate to share your wisdom from your journey. The investment of time and attention is as meaningful as any advice. Simply stop looking and trying. Striving for deep romantic relationships at a young age and for me it was anything before college was simply not what I needed at that time.
What I needed was my friends who had stuck with me. I needed friends that would be there for me regardless of how I was feeling. Friends who would call me out for being an idiot, forgive me for when I was being said idiot, and not be anything else to me but my friends.
Stop trying to fill your time with relationships of the opposite sex and simply enjoy being with those friends who have a proven track record with you. Secondly, let love learn and grow. My interactions showed me the type of person that I should seek to encourage, challenge, and accept me. There are joys and heartbreaks, felt keenly for the first time, but you don't want to get in too deep.