Feeling hard to get can be a great ego boost, but dating in your 30s is about cutting to the chase. Dating in your 30s is about getting real! The great thing about dating in your 30s is that you know the ropes by now. A little older and wiser, you can meet people and read the tell-tale signs with a bit more ease and expertise than a twenty-year-old.
The playing field has changed: There is a shift that takes place slowly over the years. As friends pair off, your social circle changes and there is a shift with time and life lived - singles in this age group adjust to a new understanding about meeting new people. Looking for something a little more serious, the rules are different.
It's tough stuff out there: At times it can feel like a hard slog out there. For women, the sporadic comment referring to the infernal tick-tock of your biological clock or for men, feeling like all the single ladies are already off the market, means that dating in your 30s is tough stuff sometimes. The double whammy of being a little more selective and the dating pool now being a little sparse can make it much harder to meet a sexy, suitable single. Although dancing until the early hours is still fun from time to time, you would probably prefer a classy bar for a quiet drink to get to know each other, and if you make it to a dinner date, make a little effort to put your best foot forward.
Long gone are the days of blowing your salary on clothes, cocktails and clubs. Finding your niche is part and parcel of growing up so keep an open mind and enjoy what you learn along the way.
Dating apps can now do the legwork: Dating apps are a game changer. The uptake has been so significant that today 1 in 3 marriages start off online. No more standing around a bar sipping on a Chardonnay hoping prince charming will walk in. Now you can sort and select your matches from the comfort of your couch. Admittedly, online dating has a bad rep for swiping your way straight to one night stands. But you have a wide choice of free dating apps to a premium dating service, like EliteSingles.
Finding and meeting real people is now more accessible with access to the best dating apps and matchmaking algorithms out there! In addition, eHarmony is generally meant for mature, commitment-minded, Christian singles. The first step is to take the 29 Dimensions of Compatibility Test, then wait for eHarmony to send you matches. If you do, you can start the conversation.
Tinder is often called a hookup app, but, in actuality, most of its users are interested in finding a long-term partner. Responsible for billions of matches a day and millions of dates a week, Tinder ensures that the odds are in your favor. Tinder probably has one of the shortest sign-up processes as well — all you have to do is provide your age, location, photo, and a little bit about yourself.
If you both swipe right on each other, messaging is enabled. Founded in , Bumble has become a go-to for somethings, specifically something women who are tired of receiving inappropriate messages and photos on other dating apps.
Here, only the women can send the first message. And when possible, personalize it by referencing something that caught your eye in their profile.
But that was then, and this is now. There are plenty of younger men out there who are excited to date older women. The reality is, the older men get, the younger the women they message online. According to OKCupid, and they would know:. I have a challenge for you - pick your desired age range, and then lower it by 5 years. And see what happens! You might be surprised to learn how many men are happy to be your online chatting buddy and never meet in person.
Hear me out — I have no doubt that you are already highly selective.
The A-List Premium plan gives you everything on basic, PLUS increased attractiveness, daily boost, public answers to questions, and message priority. It debuted in as PrimeSingles. OKCupid also has an option for people just looking for friends. It turns out once you reach the post 30 age group, time becomes a more valued commodity. Tinder is often called a hookup app, but, in actuality, most of its users are interested in finding a long-term partner. Know what you want and be ready to share your opinion.
Most highly selective singles are picky about superficial traits like physical type, height, educational level, profession and particular tastes in hobbies, music and movies. When I say to raise your standards, I mean becoming selective about two things: Let your profile and strategy evolve if necessary. Which of your photos get the most compliments or likes? Make it your main photo.