I am sort of going along with the flow Glad to hear that your antennae is up on the Aussie chick. Why don't you string her along for a while and keep her busy -- the longer she thinks she's got you "hooked" the less chance she'll pull in some poor, uninformed, misguided sucker, er, soul.
Just tonight I was almost scammed by a "Rubben Dellings" - rubb. I was suspicious from the start but every objection I raised he seemed to surmount. I could find nothing indicating he was a scammer on the internet. He posed as a native of Germany which was an excellent cover for his poor grammar. He seemed in such a big hurry to build an attachment that I nicknamed him "Monsieur Lu-uhve" when I spoke of him to my friends, but eventually I became convinced that he truly cared for me.
That is, until this "international contractor" damaged his laptop and needed me to send him an HP Pavilion dv The PO Box he gave me to send it to is one for that looks like a list of contractors for a ministry:. He named "Solomon Nutakor" as his supposed assistant, and had given me the phone number in hopes of getting my phone number from me. I called him while we were online chatting and he said, "u calling," so for some reason he gave the correct phone number.
I give you these details to alert you, if you are in contact. In our internet communications, I sometimes got the impression he'd forgotten what he'd told me. Looking back, I can see some lessons to be shared.
Here are some signs that you are talking to a scammer:. Don't excuse their poor command of the English language; assume that, at best, they are not able to communicate well enough with you for them to get to know you or for you to get to know them or that, at worst, they are scammers. Either way, not a good candidate for a meaningful relationship.
Don't bother calling them on their exaggerated or hurried exclamations of love, they'll just repeat them until you believe them. Any human being, if they hear something repeated enough, begins to believe it's true. You don't need to be looking back asking yourself how you, a smart person, could be so dumb. One scammer from months ago whom I had the good fortune to avoid because at that point I believed internet chatting was for sneaky people had his identity verified by the dating service to brand him as legitimate.
How that happened, I don't know. I did, and he said it was because he'd already met the love of his life yes, me and he didn't need it anymore.
Someone else has probably already complained. I was once contacted by a man who claimed to be a contractor from the states working for a few months in Nigeria. He says his name Is Micheal Christopher and said his wife died 5 years earlier in an automobile accident and that he was left to raise his 10 year old daughter on his own.
He has multiple pages on mysapce, myyearbook, facebook and hoverspot.
As my own husband had been killed in an auto accident 6 months earlier I was leary and began to ask questions of him. His story was just too much like my own. I gave him my yahoo ID so we could chat but no other personal info.
One night he contacted me asking about me This time I gave him false info, changed my name, age, number of children, state I lived in, etc and found out he was a scam artist. This time he told me he was divorced form his wife.
I tols him he was a liar and told him not to contact me again. I have since met a nice, honest, sincere man in Ghana. He has not asked for any money or gifts.
He talks to me on my webcam. He sends me gifts to my po box. And one day I am going to go there on vacation. I am taking a friend along so that I will not be alone and vulnerable to a potential scam artist. Ask to have a live video talk using Skype or Facetime. Professional photos are a red flag. Look for amateur photos — and more than one. Look for detail in photos — wedding rings, locations, activities, time of day, how they are dressed — to see if it matches.
Someone claiming that a photo is from a July 4th fireworks party, who is dressed in a fur coat, in daylight, might be a dead giveaway that someone is lying. Using a free inspection service that shows the location and time that a photo was originally taken can shed light on a photo liar. Introductory letters on dating websites are often copied by catfish scammers. See if the same information appears in other places or has been copied from someone else by searching for it online.
For example, someone claiming to be from St. Hear the words when you read their writing, and check their spelling and grammar. A line that sounds like it could be from someone in a far-off country but portraying themselves to be in your same city will usually have a local dialect misfire. Red flags should be raised if, right off the bat, they want to get you to instant message or email, taking you off of the dating site where you originally met.
Always create and use a unique email address that is different than your personal and professional addresses when setting up a dating website profile. Watch out for someone rushing things.
Before you send any money to Ghana, please take the time to do your also consider alerting the dating website on which the scammer was encountered. Africa · Ghana · Greater Accra · Accra · Accra Travel Forum · Browse all Introductory letters on dating websites are often copied by catfish scammers. See if the.
They play on your sympathy and strike when you are the most vulnerable — caught up in the romance and emotional. Inquire about where they are from, and verify landmarks and spellings of cities online. Catfishers like to ask you a lot of questions, but seldom let you go deep into their lives, coming up with excuses about why they are reluctant to offer more personal information about themselves. If they ask for money, lock them out of your life. Shut off communication immediately, and close all open doors if you have a hint that it is a sympathy scam.
Although most catfishers are not after money, this one should be a wake-up call to a scam. At this point, if someone has no Facebook page, but they are sophisticated enough to create an online dating profile, be warned. Also look out for potential fake Facebook pages. Signs of a fake Facebook profile can include the fact that the Facebook page was started near the same time that a dating profile elsewhere was established, if few photos are posted, or if there are no people tagged in their photos to show a connection in a relationship.
If they are on Twitter, read through historic tweets to see if the story they tell matches up to the same the person you are prospectively dating. Like Facebook, Twitter accounts created around the same time as dating profiles should be treated with caution.
Im in love with an us young lady 29 years old. We exchange all sort of pics even private ones for eyes only she wants to get married in kumasi but she said to me that i suppose to send euros that i find to much for a ghana register. She does not have skype and she just message me everyday.
Im in doubt about her thru identity because she just speak on the telephone fwice and her voice sound like a very young girl. What should i do ask an agency to check on her or just forget about this dream of a woman? My dear registering marriage in Ghana needs both parties to be present which cost less than euros, unless its under special liences which is also less than euros. And please insist on having video cam with her for months to know if this person is real and also don't send money to her until proven to be real cus from the sound of it, it could be a scam, lots of people have smart phones nowadays so it won't be difficult to video cam, if u need more help am always here to help.