It's not a very friendly place, in that way. My advice would be try to focus on events, groups, activities that have a lot of transplants. Maybe try socializing in areas that are more diverse, i. You will see a lot less white men but the ones you see might be less nineteenth century and more open to you. Best of luck and don't let it get you down; it's not a bad town just not a great place to date.
Originally Posted by montymontage. I'm extremely surprised by this. Although I'm personally a few decades removed from the dating scene, none of the young White men I know would be inclined to reject an attractive Asian woman as a dating partner. In fact, to the extent that I'm aware of their dating preferences, Asian women are usually at the top of the list. I was born and raised in MN and actually dated several Asian Women between my late teenage years and mid 20s. I didn't think of it as an "outside of my own race" thing. For me it was simply an attraction that formed because of who I was hanging around with.
And at the times I dated those women, it wasn't looked down on or thought weird of. I don't think it was that uncommon, maybe since youre not having a lot of luck dating, it just seems like a stereotype. I say hang in there. Don't try so hard to date "White Guys" just date Guys. Here is one thing to consider though when you talk about going out further.
Being born and raised there I know the culture there. We were born and raised to hang with the people we know and we tend to have large circles of friends. So its not that they wouldn't date an asian girl, its really just a thing where its tough to get into their sphere.
We tended to date our friends a lot if you know what I mean. We all hung out so much and so often, we didn't have time for newbies. So maybe just take it slow, build some relationships first. After you build trust with some of the guys, then approach the subject. Im sure you will be fine. Originally Posted by rtloucks. Originally Posted by wushuliu.
Meanwhile as life passes her by Minnesotans are really nice folks but a lot of them have poor skills when it comes to meeting new people. One of the most awkward experiences I ever had, but typical in Minnesota. I believe for generational Minnesotans what we are discussing is cultural. For many years I assumed it had something to do with the nature of Northern Europeans but then I got to know relatives from the "old country" and started to rethink it.
I think some of this reserve may be an artifact of the immigration experience. These were people for whom it was important to fit it and not look different. They were careful not to expose too much of themselves for fear of not seeming sufficiently in the mainstream. From the family stories I've been told they were subject to ridicule and considered backwards and gullible by the people who were already here. And often they were taken advantage of. I wonder how much of that caution has been passed down and is the sort of "reserve" people notice in Minnesotans. I don't know who you think you're talking to, and quite frankly I don't give a fly'n shit anymore.
Nothing you say makes any sense to me so it goes in one ear and right out the other. I'll write, post, holler, cuss, question where and when I feel like it. We are the epitome of manhood. What are you rambling about Tatt that on your forehead? I got more than 1 degree. I lift weight and stay in shape. My job financially satisfies my needs. There is no myths. That sex myth is true. Stop all your bullshit. You are just mad black men pulled down your pantie, spanked you, and left you. I can understand the frustration.
But I am no longer going to let you emasculate men anymore.
The more successful you are as a black woman. They call you arrogant, bitter and mean. Why should we "temper" our talents to make insecure black women happy. Fuck that, we are the alpha males and you will bow down and kiss the ring. You can always be with a white man If they want you. Get used to it! Pointing at Petite Watch your step! When you starting riding with Tatt. You will get it next! He said black women are the ones fucking up. Their bad attitudes and prickly personalities turn off white men. Stop trying to make excuses.
Take the information and use it. This is some more B. Why can't a woman of color just recognize and be a attracted to a man that just so happens to be white??? Some black men need to just stop Some think they are the epitome of "manliness" simply because of "myths" and who knows what. Some can't shut up about what they do and don't have because of someone else yet they are the "strong" ones Good day, Good People tatted2death.
LOL Glad to see you handling business over in this thread as well. This is a pet-peeve of mine as well You ask some very important questions that no doubt will be misconstrued some how Hey, I even have a few of my own Maybe, just maybe it had a little something to do with the double-standard going around with men of color dating whomever they choose but women getting the stink-eye AND worse from dayum near anyone if she even glanced at a white dude.
Although I can't fully relate to people's "peer-pressure" issues when it comes to most things, I am sure that in at least some of these cases it had something to do with it. Peace and Blessings tatted2death P. I sense you are the same way Aquariunsun Thanks for your comments. I don't know a doggone thing about MN but let me ask you the following with regard to this statement: I saw it more of a problem of black women making the choice.
There were many very beautiful black women there that could have charmed that white man, but more than likely they were turned off. Things may have changed now. I also see the younger college age of all races more receptive to dating outside their race. From what I'm reading here that doesn't appear to be the case. I coud be wrong of course Do you think all Black women whether living in MN or otherwise are "monolithic" as though we all want a non-intelligent gentleman regardless of race?
This to your point that "White men are nerdy? So you say it was "our approach? The same holds true for the man with woman. I presently live in AZ 9yrs moved from MN. I have to say that back when I lived in MN I knew many black women that felt white women were taking away their men. When I talked with them about dating a white man a common respose was that white men were sort nerdy " had no soul", and they were not open to dating them. In AZ I see people of all colors together, and it is not at all oncommon to see a white man with a black women. If someone is attracted to someone regardless of race give a few hints and flirtations; you may be very surprised at the results.
I don't live in Minesota but I do have cousins who live there and say the same thing about how black men pass her up for white women. So in light of everything spoken on here, I'm not surprised one bit. Alot of black men are very colour-struck and self-hating. They don't like for their dirty laundry to be aired out, but oh well if it was clean in the first place, then there would be nothing to air out.
Thats why in this society as a whole, although it's they are still considered ignorant and only good for entertainment and sexing. Needless to say I do not feel sorry for such black men. However, I'm happy to have a very self-loving black man whom I can treat like a king while he treats me like his black Nubian queen. Jessica I have to ask, if this is ALL a bunch of hype then why are you worried about it? You have a white husband and most of your friends do, then you shouldn't be worried right? I am a white woman and really have never been attracted to black guys, I do think it seems like in black culture men and women are fighting a lot.
White women have same problem losing a lot of good white men to other cultures.
I lived in California and in a lot of areas asian and latin women and many are very pretty are taking the white men in big numbers. I think the IR thing been going on for years in secret just like how gays been sleeping with each other for years, only difference is now its out in the open instead of hidden. I work with many white women and majority are dating or married to white men so this is not as widespread as made out. I think this hype is just that and a lot of frustrated people blowin smoke.
This topic peaked my interest, because even though my first girlfriend at age 6 was jewish, and we always lived in integrated, or my family integrated neighborhoods in Philadelphia, she and I hooked up again in college 20 years later in St Paul, MN. After that relationship, I had 2 more there in the twin cities over a number of years, and never regretted a minute of the time there.
It used to be Uncle Sam's, then 1st Avenue by the time Prince was around, and that was a proverbial breeding ground for white girls looking for black men and occasionally the vengeful black woman looking for a white guy. Is it still there? The 2 relationships I had after college there were both with white girls from Minneapolis suburbs who had never been exposed to black men except media reports on TV.
I treated them both well and they both ended up marrying black men. I see not a lot is different if you guys are still talking about it 30 years later Let me say engaging in a relationsdhip because of a trend is freakin' rediculous. Black men are with attractive white women everywhere. You will find black women who you know YOU would never date with black men. What are you talking about? Your name says it all, pal. George W doesn't care about black people. Especially black women if you choose to date them as some sort of trend rather than genuine love and effection.
Bob, I see where you're coming from, but let me remind you. What you're talking about is learned behavior. Some people say things such as what you are saying as though it's something genetic within black females or people in general. And with TV, the radio, and the internet, we cannot seem to escape the negative stigmas that are place on us by society.
Many people understand this, some don't and decide to wage some outlandish campaign to snuff black men out; much like it was planned back in th 's. It's like a overweight woman who decides to start working out. She may give up if she isn't encourage or is constantly being told she's still fat despite the fact that she IS trying. When someone hates a certain gender, race, or gender of race, they'll say anything about them. Respectfully disagreeing with Timbo That's been my observation. I've lived everywhere and the statistic is just plain false and holds no validity. Dating black guys is a trend for white girls.
It's what they do best. I've seen this trend everywhere. Two of my white female acquaintances only date black men now because no white will have them, one of which specifically stated this when we were at lunch once.
If even beautiful black women are getting passed up for plain jane white girls, something is wrong with the the black women in Minnesota and everywhere else. So maybe it's not just a white guy experience, maybe black dudes are frustrated with these REALLY hard to get black females.
White females are more sexually liberated, and are less paranoid that you will still respect them in the morning after a romp in the hay. I have dated many white women because they will at least speak when spoken to, as opposed to the silence or negative facial guesture received from black women when attempting to start a conversation. White women tend to be more receptive to conversation, kinder, more thoughtful, and sexually uninhibited, which is the opposite of a sister's general attitude.
Sister's tend to be argumentative, as opposed to black women who'll express an opion and "let it go. My woman is in PA too. Reggie you hit it right on the nail. Yet these pasty white men want black women so bad. I tell them let get them. My mother always use to say in her Caribbean accent it is "better to let them feel it than talk to dem".
By the way, you left out professional black women are controlling. I don't blame you for liking Latin women and white women. By the way, the PA white women are nice. I have a black fiancee she half puertorican. These black women have multiple children and have the nerve to make threats of a white man taking them on with their "tribe" of children. I laugh in their face are you serious? Let Billy take care of those kids like one black woman said on my blog.
She said her white man grease their scalp and some other shit. I said did you teach your white man to bark and roll over too. I'm currently in the process of relocating to MN, the Minneapolis area.
My family husband and kids and I are looking for social groups for interracial families,can anyone give me any help or resources available in the area or online? It would be highly appreciated. Guys come on Im going to keep it real i grew up in the interracial boom in the late 90's and early 2k's. I'm 26 and most of the black women i went for were 10 to 15 years older then me have their shit together emotionally the one's I date tend to be workaholics and have no kids it's a growing trend in most professional black women I call it the oprah effect.
I dated them but for some reason younger black women turn me off if a black girl is under 30 I can tell by her actions she is still stuck in a little girl mode. Most of the girls that yes i have been interested in are latina and white women in my age range. What I have learned about me is I like black women still but not of my age group or my generation. The black cougar women I have dated have guided me treated me well and most importantly showed me respect as a male counterpart.
But only downside is they push to early for marriage , i was proposed to by a lover of mine when I was 22 but thank god i had the awareness to realize in my twenties I dont want marriage. She understood after a back and forth debate for a couple of weeks I let her go for her own wellbeing because she would of stayed with me till i was ready and she would probably be out of childbearing stage by then so better to look for some one who is ready.
I have also dated white women in their 20's but most have been long distant relationships. Now seeing a girl in PA i live in nyc it seems to be working. If anything Im not a self hating black man im just a agist lol. I like older black women with more going for them and wisdom to spare. I just wish i was at a point in my life where I want marriage then it would be all gravy.
The older sistas are more confident yes they do have more baggage but I always ask 21 questions to see if their still carrying their baggage or have put them in storage and moved on with their lives. Personally I am just looking for well mannered women ,well spoken women turn me on,educated ,takes care of herself and don't have kids with several different men. I like women who can engage me and allow me to engage them in various ways. I will say this alot of the black girls not all but again alotin my age group are out of their minds. Ladies if you do have a black daughter pull in the reigns on their braids their not understanding what life is about.
Their stubborn, immature , looking for something flashy and like what some of the guys said I know the type of women their talking about in black women. Yes ladies their alot of them i have tried to talk to them on black planet and I have engaged them in discussion it's really bad out their right now for black women. But your fellow sistas who act out of their minds are not doing black women justice. This is my ratio for every 4 black women only 1 has their head on straight.
hi, i have an uncle living in minnesota, and i have visited him a few times. i'm going to take a shot at this. Minnesota is about 85% white. Looking For A Free To Join Interracial Dating Site? Join Interracial Dating Central And Start Meeting 's Of Single Men & Women Today!.
That is scarey what i mean by that their healthy, mentally strong , emotionally stable and have beautiful vocab no ebonics. I would take 1 michelle obama over beyonce's for real. Some of you need to just get a life like Agape Reign and Flirt1, if you wouldnt have dated any of the guys she dated anyway than whats the problem. And even if you did want to and he didnt move it along, seriously.
Black woman always want to talk about black men dating white woman, who cares thats there perfernce. Why does it matter so much to you. And I also noticed the woman that seem to have such a big problem with it cant seem to keep a man so they blame anything and everything for it instead of looking at themselves. If you cant find a black man, why not be a little more openminded then you may also see happiness comes in all shapes, sizes and colors. To each thier own. Preference is tottally up to the individual.
It is not easy to find love and for some they may feel like race can become an issue.. Exspecially when someone feels discriminated against by some1 within their race for stereotypical, false judgemental facts from being manipulated or brainwashed. No one is better than any1 else god has created us all equally. I encourage ppl to be more openminded in What matters is someones connection they feel. Personally, I like beautiful women - whether they are black, white, of Asian descent or from the Caribbean is not a concern. First and foremost, they should have a strong relationship with God!
As a man of faith, I could not imagine being in any relationship, especially an interracial one and not have God as the driving force!! Being I was raise in CA where its very diverse out West and moved up here during my high school I did find alot of black men dating white women. But, now as I am older and the population has changed you find more different races dating outside there race.
The majority of MN is mostly white but if you live in the urban ares you will find that interracial isn't just based on black and whites relationship anymore. I don't mean to be blunt or disrespectful to anyone reading this blog but I felt compelled to offer my explanation to the question at hand. I am a Minnesota native who just returned home from a predominantly African American area of Ohio after 9 years, I am also a white female I have to say that this is not a Minnesota isolated epidemic.
And my thoughts are that Black women or any strong minded self respecting independent female is getting streamlined because they are not what the individual is seeking-As far as I can tell Ladies you don not want them anyway. Thank them for saving you the time and headache!! Seriously the problem is that there just aren't many good men left and us women are allowing the bad ones to strive.
And we do live in a material world sometimes we may overlook a great opportunity based on appearances. I remember in the and 70's women married for money all the time the roles are just reversing just like everything else does. Just a way of the times I guess. I am a black man living in New York City and i can definitely say that it goes both ways here. People date who they find attractive.
When it comes to black women, i am definitely seeing many black women dating white men and of course the obvious, black men dating white women. However, in my circle of ivy league "educated" men, most if not all, are currently in search of a black woman or simply have already settled down and married a black woman. These stories i am hearing about Minnesota sounds surreal, try coming to New york ladies, you would get so much love from black men and men in general, i doubt you would want to go back to Minnesota.
I guess its simply due to the rich diversity of NYC i guess. Black men who feel they deserve "something" for their accomplishment will continue to date across racial lines, as this is their validation that they have made it. This is where the pro atlethes fall, the slightly educated brotha, and the brotha that has a little residual income.
The brotha that realizes he should strive for great heights ALWAYS, doesn't need validation, that brotha will date and love a black female, unfortunaltely the hip hop generation has all but nullify this group.
Post was not sent - check your email addresses! We are the epitome of manhood. Do you think all Black women whether living in MN or otherwise are "monolithic" as though we all want a non-intelligent gentleman regardless of race? This is a pet-peeve of mine as well When I talked with them about dating a white man a common respose was that white men were sort nerdy " had no soul", and they were not open to dating them. The Art Of Charm. So guess who I do end up dating.
Welcome to the reality of the black woman in the US today, very educated, very well spoken, reaching new heights, abandoned by the brotha who needs validation. Hi, I agree to some of miss Lil MaMa says.