One of the shortest I've ever seen actually - he comes in somewhere just over five feet tall 5'3" or so tops. He has the face of a calvin klein model on a slightly athletic build. He's very well-educated, accomplished, interesting and funny - just an all-around good guy to boot. He's single, and now officially in his mid-late 20s. He recently tried online dating for the first time, both through Tinder and OkCupid.
As a man of average height, I never stopped to think about what he would then describe. He was borderline humiliated. He put up his profile and sent hundreds of personalized, well-written messages. Got maybe 1 or 2 back. For the height section - he filled in his height honestly. Even flubbing a few inches - more noticeable on a shorter dude imo - wouldn't have done much to boost him in the eyes of women. When he took height off his profile, he got more replies, but he showed me three conversations in which he had hit it off wonderfully All three ended when the woman asked him frankly how tall he was.
When it eventually came out, they all went stopped cold-turkey and he never heard from them again. These women were shorter than he was. On Tinder, things went a little better at first - although there is the occasional snooty profile remarking about height. Again, he showed me several convos where the girl asked him how tall he was seemingly out of the blue. Some extremely disrespectful responses came after he let them know. So what does a shorter guy do? A coworker the other day mentioned he had to give up completely on online dating due to height being a roadblock - he's like 5'6" though.
It seems to me that your options are to either: Lie - they'll find out eventually, or maaaaybe think you're a few inches taller than you really are 2. Dont list it - they'll find out eventually 3. Just seems unfair as it's completely out of his control and he pretty much killed it on everything that IS in his control and most other things that aren't looks, intelligence.
Methinks it's probably best to forgo it and just stick to irl - if it's a roadblock you probably won't ever know as nothing will happen, plus you at least have the chance to impress with personality instead of literally just stats. Forgive me if this thread is Capt. Obvious or has been done to death. No Love Banned Aug 30, Jun 7, 6, 0 0. Live life as a false tall er person.
Ninja Scooter Member Aug 30, Jun 7, , 5 0. I'd imagine that's not an issue exclusive to online dating for him. BearPawB Banned Aug 30, May 14, 6, 0 0. There are plenty of girls out there that are ok with a shorter guy. Sure, some girls will instantly reject. But people out there like all sorts of things. The person he wants wouldn't care about his height anyway. Undead Member Aug 30, Feb 8, 0 0 UK. Yeah, in my experience a woman likes her man to be taller than she is, that's not to say he will never find someone, just will take him longer and dating sites are probably not a good bet.
Apr 22, 26, 1 0. Online dating seems like a shallow place to select people since physical attributes are the starting point. Have to go the old fashioned way.
M52B28 Member Aug 30, Jul 20, 2, 0 California. Online dating can be a destroyer of self esteem. MidgarBlowedUp Member Aug 30, Feb 17, 7, 10 1, I know quite a few that are under 5 foot 2.
Can you search based on height on those online dating sites? StanleyStutters Member Aug 30, Jul 6, 1, 0 0 Massachusetts. I'm slightly taller than your friend, 5'5", and it has been a slight problem with online dating, but nothing insurmountable. I have had some women not interested due to my height, but I just brush it off and move on. What kind of messages is your friend sending? I do not look like a model and I have way better results than what you're describing and I list my height honestly. Maybe he's just coming across badly in his messages. Ghazi Member Aug 30, Jul 23, 11, 1 0.
Try it destroying irl dating potential? Dec 6, 85, 72 1, I'm a decent height, but I have many female friends and they totally disqualify short dudes on dating sites. Have him try singles meetups instead. Jul 7, 14, 0 0.
Move to south america. Get at those fine latin chicks. Guys are short there. He will be a god. Though, 5 feet is damn short even for there. I am 5'8 and feel like a giant there. Juice Member Aug 30, Dec 16, 14, 3 0. Ban Puncher Member Aug 30, Jun 11, 14, Pau Member Aug 30, How does this translate to my dating profile? I don't brag about my educational achievements, but I definitely check off "graduate degree" and have words like "Educated" and "Accomplished".
I also list my interests and hint at my side gigs. As an example, I do voiceovers. If you did landscaping, list that.
If we like someone, we tend to brag about what separates them from all of the other Joes and Janes out there. It's not necessarily about the money either you could be a lawyer, but deep in student loan debt. The great thing about being a man is that it is the entire package which counts - that includes your job and social circle.
All of that heightens the perception of yourself and can make you more attractive. This is also why as a short guy I stay away from circles or individuals who make it a point to make your height a constant punchline. Don't play the Garmin, as you don't want to be "the guy who people crack on". This can mean many different things, but in essence, dress toward your demographic while having your own unique fashion sense.
We're all into different types of women. I have my own style and unique fashion sense, but am able to calibrate it slightly so it can better appeal to who I am trying to chat up. Fancy enough to impress, dressed up enough to go out to some place ritzy, but dressed down enough to not make my date feel as if I'm being "too formal".
Alterations For Short Men: You will see this same advice spewed on all short guy blogs, but I cannot emphasize this enough - get clothes that fit, get clothes that fit, get clothes that fit. You might even have old jeans or shirts lying around that you picked up because size-wise, you thought that was the only option you have.
Need a new pair of jeans? Take those baggy jeans you have and have them tailored. Last week I took a pair of jeans that was too wide around the lower legs. I took them in and got them tapered and ripped with patches sown in behind the rips. You need to look your best. Not only will you feel good, but others will take notice in real life and your dating profile will stand out.
Look, this is not a body building or exercise blog, so I'm not going to give you work out advice, there are plenty of blogs and websites for that though if you are reading this and would like to contribute workout advice to short guys specifically, by all means contact us! What I can tell you is that I've seen countless profiles where women say, "If you have shirtless pics, don't bother", suggesting that guys that do are narcissists. As I said earlier, the first pic I get complimented on is my shirtless pic watch what they do, take what they say with a grain of salt.
I'm not saying to overdo it with eight shirtless pics, but one which shows off your physique, or maybe a shirt that hugs your body i. I do notice that the shorter guys I see with girlfriends at the beach in the summer time tend to be in amazing shape. At my gym there is this guy who is a few inches shorter than me. I put him at about 5'3 or 5'4. His girlfriend comes to workout with him all of the time.
While I am toned and in great shape, when I see him I get motivated. Large arms, impressive shoulders and people compliment him all the time. When I see him, I say to myself, "I need to step my game up". Again, a great physique will do you no harm. Put Yourself Out There. One million self-help articles, books and blog posts won't help you one iota unless you put it into practice.
So you've been hitting the gym five times a week and your pecs now poke out of every shirt you put on. So, you've taken photography classes and have an Instagram full of conversation inspiring shots with scores of likes and comments to boot. All of this means nothing unless you're getting out into the trenches. Enough with flexing your typing skills and muscles in profile pics. Get out there and meet people.
Put effort into moving those inbox conversations to offline chats as soon as possible. If a woman responds to one of your messages, it means she's interested. Overabundance equals quick boredom. Once you move that chat to actual texting or phone calls, close in on setting up a date. If her interest turns too passive indecisive, longer periods between responses , eighty-six her and move onto newer waters.
So what have we learned here aside from how to read a long article? Lying about your height within reason is not a big deal in the online dating scene. On the other side of the pond, the number of women who punch of up their stats by way of lying about their age, their looks through makeup, push-up bras, suspicious camera angles, hair extensions, and body shapers is enormous. They do it for the same reasons you would embellish, and that is so they can fish in the waters they want to reel in the best that they can get.
Straight From The Horse's Mouth. In real life, they embellish to feel pretty, but attracting the opposite sex is a byproduct of that. Remember, you are the prize. Even the plainest jane will receive hundreds of messages a day. As a guy you have to maximize your marketability.
Being in shape, dressing well and being accomplished will only help with that and drive your self-assurance through the roof. With that in mind, I want to emphasize that I always come clean, and you should consider the same. No one likes their time wasted, and while there is no guarantee that every experience will be pleasureful one, starting off on the right foot is paramount and will keep the ball in your court.
With millions of women dipping their feet in the online dating-sphere, everyone will not be for you, but the more you can catch, the better the chances are you will find the right one for you, or the right one for right now. Now I do realize that my being of a "Normal Short" height 5''8 has a major deal to with my outcome.
For that reason, I will seek out one of my shorter friends in the 5''4 range and ask him to share some of his dating successes and woes in real life and online in a future article though there are plenty of dating articles on this site that highlight the success of men in that height range. Thanks for reading, and get out there!
First off, lying about height to a woman who is significantly taller than you is not a good idea as they tend to be more height-aware. It seems to me that your options are to either: For those who responded, I replied that I had increased my height for this article and apologized for misrepresenting myself. One million self-help articles, books and blog posts won't help you one iota unless you put it into practice. As I said earlier, the first pic I get complimented on is my shirtless pic watch what they do, take what they say with a grain of salt. Feb 17, 7, 10 1,
Age Weight Intent I cannot begin to tell you how many women lie about their age on dating sites. Dress Well This can mean many different things, but in essence, dress toward your demographic while having your own unique fashion sense.
Get In Shape Look, this is not a body building or exercise blog, so I'm not going to give you work out advice, there are plenty of blogs and websites for that though if you are reading this and would like to contribute workout advice to short guys specifically, by all means contact us! Put Yourself Out There One million self-help articles, books and blog posts won't help you one iota unless you put it into practice. Women Make It Clear.
Don't Waste Anyone's Time. Summary So what have we learned here aside from how to read a long article? Vulgar tweet, but shows there are women out there who love short dudes In Community, 6 days ago, by minilinebacker Happy New Year Everyone!
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