minkanews.com/core/dave/8327-blackwell-books.php There was nothing to worry about. And yet, for whatever reason, I was nervous.
To calm my nerves, I spent the day doing everything I could not to think about the night ahead. I got Viagra from a friend, bought weed and a bottle of bourbon for us to share — all attempts to make sure the evening went off without a hitch — clearly a doomed distraction from the start. In retrospect, I recognized that my nerves were signaling how important this experience was to me.
I spent so much time preaching the importance of sexual openness and exploration, the comparability of repressing your sexual identity and repressing your personality. It was time to put my sex life where my mouth was. Emily showed up looking fantastic, but visibly nervous. She had a white wine. Soon it looked like the booze was doing the trick for Ian. Still at the bar, he started to lightly caress Emily.
She welcomed his advances. Meanwhile, I stared anxiously into space, getting more nervous by the second. We finished our drinks and went to the room. Reflecting on it now, that was a decisive moment. I was finally able to overcome the indecision and awkwardness plaguing all of us, and kick off what turned out to be an amazing night. We had made a group decision early on not to use condoms. Because one of our goals was to have an overwhelming amount of great sex, we all got tested, and Emily assured us that she was on birth control.
The night was a blur of ups and downs, hard-ons and not-hard-ons, wet and not wet enough, orgasms and delayed orgasms, positioning and repositioning, laughter and silence, panting and muffled moans, and everything else you can imagine. The three of us started the evening at 10 p. We picked things back up at 8 a. At times, Emily desired only one of us and the other would watch. We were surprised at how naturally this happened. There was no awkwardness, no hesitation.
When we spoke about it later, we agreed it felt natural to help the other enjoy the experience. We finally left the room at about 1 pm as slightly different people. Personally, I never looked at sex the same way again. Exiting the hotel, Emily made us promise to keep in touch with her. We reassured her we would, then headed to a bar. We talked about the night, the way we always would, laughing hysterically at intervals. We reflected on the fact that we were really lucky to have organized the experience so seamlessly and how rare it really was to do what we just did.
What I hope people take away from this story is this: There is a way to have almost any sexual experience you want, as long as you communicate openly and honestly. I was lucky enough to involve my best friend in a threesome — one all parties knew would be meaningful and positive, because we had communicated honestly from the very beginning. This can be applied to almost anyone, in almost any sexual scenario.
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