We need the gentle grounding of a person who is reasonable, steadfast, loyal, and dependable. Hot and cold personalities are among the hardest people for us to connect with because we never really know what to expect or know where we stand with them. If you are warm and friendly one minute and cold the next, we will take it personally.
Be consistent, especially in your interactions with us. Knowing that we are an important part of your life validates our relationship and helps us know what to expect from you. Parallel play is known as the stage in development when small children play beside another child without engaging with them directly. ENFPs are the most introverted of the extroverted types.
Being so, we crave time alone to think, process, regroup, and reflect on current happenings and wonderings. While we love people, we can become easily overwhelmed or overstimulated and need quiet time to re-energize. Especially at the end of a long day, there are few things that I love more than being beside someone who allows me to just be. Spend a Saturday curled up on the couch reading with us or in a coffee shop writing or getting work done.
ENFPs need room to grow. More than most types, we see life as a journey and believe we are and should be constantly evolving through it. We are very quickly drawn to new adventures and ideas and while we do sometimes need to be pulled back down from the clouds, we also really value people who understand our need for consistent growth and new experiences. We see them as opportunities to learn more about ourselves. Encourage our personal growth and hair brained ideas. Find opportunities to help us try new things. Sometimes we do need to snapped back to reality, but learn us well enough to know when to gently tug us back to earth and when to encourage us to spread our wings and fly.
We love seeing the world through the eyes of people we love.
If there is something you love doing, take us along on the journey. It will help us to feel like we are seeing another side to you and we might also learn something about ourselves along the way. While this is really more about you than it is about us, anytime we feel like a person has opened up a piece of themselves to us, we take that seriously. ENFPs throw our entire selves into life. We have a very difficult time separating who we are as a person from who we are professionally or who we are in a relationship. We really do want to be the best version we can be of ourselves and the only way of doing that sometimes is to know what we can do better.
We are likely to do enough of that all by ourselves. Instead, choose your words kindly and come at us from a point of love. If we know that your aim is to better us or our relationship, we will really try to take it in stride.
The ability to inspire is probably one of the things I appreciate most in others. It is the kind of person I hope to be and so I seek the same in the people I hold in my inner circle. Share your ideas with us. We want to encourage growth in you as much as we want you to help us grow.
By sharing your dreams with us, we will know how to support you in not only your future plans, but also in your every day life. The world is noisy, and we are often adding our own form of noise to it. At the end of the day, you have two choices in love — one is to accept someone just as they are and the other is to walk away. Nothing terrifies me more than being so close to someone and then watching them become a stranger again.
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You may unsubscribe at any time. By subscribing, you agree to the terms of our Privacy Statement. ENFPs are all-or-nothing people in their lives and in love. ENFPs crave meaningful connections with their partners and are likely to leave a relationship early on if that connection is absent. This inconsistency may be confusing and frustrating for the children.
They usually value their children as individuals, allowing them room for growth. The ENFP's enthusiasm and affection may at times seem smothering to their children. This will be especially true for children with strong Thinking or Sensing preferences, who will have a difficult time understanding the effervescence of the ENFP, and will feel at times embarassed by the ENFP's enthusiasm and tendency to display their affection publicly.
The ENFP is able to take care of day-to-day necessities, such as picking children up at the correct times, getting them to softball practice, getting them fed, etc. However, it is a chore for the ENFP and is not a natural strength. The ENFP also has a difficult time disciplining their children, unless a very strongly-held value has been violated. The rich imagination and creativity of the ENFP parent creates a fun, dynamic and exciting environment for kids. The ENFP's strong value system turns experiences into meaningful lessons for their children.
The ENFP parent is valued by their children for their warm, affirming natures, and their fun-loving approach to living. They are energetic and fun to be with. They are very affirming, and get great satisfaction from supporting and lifting up others. They are idealists who seek authenticity in their personal relationships. ENFPs are valued by their peers and confidantes as warm, supportive, giving people. In the workplace or other casual relationship environments, the ENFP is likely to get along well with almost all other types of people. ENFPs are genuinely interested in people, and are highly perceptive about them, to the point where they're able to understand and relate to all of the personality types with relative ease.
They like to see the best in others, and are likely to bring out the best in others. While they are generally accepting of most all people, ENFPs with strong Feeling preferences may have a difficult time understanding people with very strong Thinking preferences who do not respond to the ENFP's enthusiastic warmth.
The ENFP will stay open-minded about what they consider a "rejection" by the Thinker, until the situation has repeated itself a few times, in which case the ENFP may shut themselves entirely against the Thinker.
ENFPs may also feel threatened by individuals with strong Judging preferences. With a tendency to take any criticism personally, the ENFP may find themselves irritated or emotional when the Judger expresses a negative opinion, believing somehow that the Judger is expressing disapproval or disappointment in the ENFP. For close friendships, ENFPs are especially drawn to other iNtuitive Feeling types, and to other Extraverts who are also enthusiastic about life. They're likely to have friends from all walks of life who they feel close to and care about, but will have only a few very close friends with similar ideals to their own.
ENFPs dislike routine and control. Do not try to control your ENFP partner, they will very strongly oppose any attempts to confine them.
Can be too Intense While the ENFP exudes energy and spontaneity, they are sometimes accused of being too intense by other types who are interested in enjoying the moment and taking things slow. ENFPs are best paired with other types who enjoy a little excitement and intensity. The imagination and expression of the ENFP can be overwhelming for other quieter personality types. Trouble in School or a Lack of Concentration ENFPs are typically very bright and with a great aptitude for many types of scholastic endeavors.
However, they do not like to concentrate for too long at a time so they may find more detailed studying too confining and lack the concentration to complete the tasks at hand. Scattered The ENFP can come across as unconventional and scattered due to their many pursuits and hobbies and projects and interest in all things new. It is good for the ENFP to try to focus while staying on path and learn to enjoy the satisfaction of completing a task.