If this guy is a student, having no car or job is perfectly acceptable. If he isn't a student, he is a bum.
I wouldn't get hung up on the car - it's not necessary to live in a lot of places. However if he doesn't study and has no job, he does nothing effectively. If a person has no drive to do something with their life I instantly find them extremely unattractive.
Is he happy with no car, job, or money? Or did he just lose his job and go broke temporarily. If you really like him, try to make it work. How about dating someone who has a little thing called self-respect and maturity. Now if he's a student, and he's obviously tight on money, then you should invite him to do activities that require little to know money.
Like picnics, hiking, playgrounds, watching dvd's at home. The only thing you'll have to pay for is gas, and that's not so bad. Maybe he is a victim of the economy and can't get a job.
I swear half the people in that city go jogging hoping to get hit by a car. May 24, 3. Be very wary of men who talk up a big game of what they plan on doing with their lives. I live, and have almost always lived in places with bad transit and I am not wealthy, but I make it work. If he doesn't like them and refuses to hang out with them, leave immediately.
No job means no money for things like a car. If you really like him, there's plenty you two can do that's free. Movies at home, eating in, walks around a park.. Bike rides to cool places, etc.
Have you spoken to him about it? I mean not being funny, I've worked my butt off for 2 years for next to no pay and all I have to show for it is a car I can't afford and hardly anything to show for it. Maybe there's more than meets the eye. Of course, strangers might know the complete answer, but just a crazy thought to try speaking to him. I just lost one of my jobs. But my point is, you haven't really given us the full story so do you even know it yourself? I think armyguy has it right. That situation sucks, but pay more attention to his goals.
If he's actually trying to get a job or save up money or something, then at least he's going in the right direction. You can know that he has higher standards for himself. On the other hand, if he's content to just sit around at home and play videogames all day or something, that's not a good sign. You need to make sure you wouldn't be the only one making all the effort in the relationship.
Basically once you really think about it, you'll know whether it would be worth it or not. These changes in effort can be very foretelling of how he will be a year or two down the road. Always play close attention to how a guy's behavior changes once he has had sex with you for the first time.
If he truly cares about you, his good behaviors will grow stronger. Those who back down and start getting lazier after having sex for the first time were probably only after one thing to begin with. Anyone, regardless of gender, who asks for help paying bills early on in a relationship should raise red flags. Don't let yourself be used. By paying for him early on, you are setting the tone that it will be this way for your entire future.
Be very wary of men who talk up a big game of what they plan on doing with their lives. Some men with no ambition whatsoever like to talk up a good game, but at the end of the day, they are just saying what they know women want to hear. There is nothing wrong with a guy who wants to grow into a better person, just make sure that he's genuine. In my book, living at home up until age 25 is acceptable, provided the guy was going through schooling or saving up money.
But anyone who has been working for a couple of years and still lives with his mother past this age is never going to grow up. The "sorry, I'm not a big phone person," guy. Some men may not like being tied down to a phone, but responding to your text messages or phone calls shouldn't be annoying; it's common courtesy and respect.
This is a warning sign of future selfish behavior.
The opposite of number eleven, the over-controlling guy must know where "his woman" his every second of the day and approve of who she is hanging out with. Run from this type of man immediately.
One day, he wants a relationship. The next day, he wants kids. Two months later, he's not sure about either. Often times when this line is pulled, its code for "I'm looking for a marriage and kids, just not with you. If you like being indoors more than being outdoors, this may be a good match for you. But men who are constantly suggesting that they want to just stay in and watch a movie early on in the dating game are likely the lazy type, or only out for sex.
This will only get worse over time. No man is more important than your friends. If he doesn't like them and refuses to hang out with them, leave immediately.
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