follow site Can I do something to turn this on to make her chase me a bit more. Or there is a way to make her committed to this more and make me her priority. Sun Jun 30, 3: Sun Jun 30, 5: I think she's got you on the back burner a bit. She does like you though because you make her laugh and she feels good around you but she also has the added excitement of seeing other guys.
A woman I knew played the field but once she knew the guy was also seeing other women she weighed everything up and didn't want to lose him. They became a good, solid couple in the end. I guess we always think the grass is greener and keep our options open! Mon Jul 01, 3: Thank you for replies. What I found interesting here is I kinda started to develop feelings for her at the start and maybe that's whats cost me much.
We can be fuck buddies, I don't have problem with that. Now, I would ask you for opinion: Last time I seen her was wednesday morning and we didn't communicate since then.
Yes, continue to see her once or twice a week. She's being honest with you and that's a good thing.
It sounds like she wants a casual open relationship. There's nothing wrong with that. However, I strongly encourage you to date other people as well.. Just my 2 cents. Tue Jul 02, 3: Mon Jul 08, Fri Sep 06, 3: Hello guys, I have update on the topic. It will be wall of text on not quite decent English but please hang with me. I wanted to share the rest of the story with you and to ask you for advice.
The events that took place over the end of august made significant turn on the pace of relationship with this girl. To summarize, we have been seeing each other during the June.. After that we went on vacation in the same city at the same time frame. We have both lived there at some point in our lives and we both have families and friends there. But because we switched our mobile phone cards we didn't have a contact at all nor even accidentally bump up to each other.
I returned home thinking that the story is over when suddenly I received text from her inviting me to go on the drink. We met up and she told me that she quit the job and shes moving back to home the same city we were both on vacation month ago, btw that's in another country.
She wanted to say goodbuy, at least that's what she told me, but instead we went to my place and have incredible sex.
In the morning while I was driving her to hers place I managed to persuade her to stay one more night. She agreed and decided to stay. It was even better than the night before. I asked her to stay one more day but she said that she really has to go. In the morning we finally said goodbuy.
But later that day she called up and said that she want me to help her get the car to the mechanic before she goes on the travel I told her I have good friend mechanic. So I did it and we decided to meet up later because she canceled traveling for tomorrow. We went to the dinner party that evening at my friend who invited us. She was all dressed up and glowing and I really noticed some change in her behavior.
She was really relaxed and happy.
Finally looked like we connected. She slept over at my place again. Justnell Send a private message. Great advice, most likely there is someone woman out there who is looking for a guy like you. You've had fun with her. You haven't had a convo about exclusivity and it seems not sure that you're not sleeping with her.
I don't know why you need to jettison her. Why not keep dating? Isn't that what dating is - to get to know people you might be interested in? I don't think you need to volunteer the info to her, but you shouldn't hide it either. If she asks, or it somehow comes up, then be honest. IMO you'd be playing games to handle it like this: We're dating, we're not exclusive, she's dating others, I need to bail.
You'd be trying to protect yourself first and foremost, when you should be trying to enjoy life, first and foremost. Having said all that, it sounds like she might be using you to make the other guy jealous, so you're taking a chance. Don't get too emotionally involved. Try to just have fun and see what happens.
The other guy might be playing her, as well. You need to go after what you want in life. Don't give up at the first obstacle.
This reeks of plots and plans and moves and counter moves. You seem to be an entertaining person capable of seeing what else is in town. See others while you can. IF you still feel the same way about her after a few dates with others, continue working to nail her down. But don't work hard to nail her down just so ten others can walk into your life and you have to start un-nailing her. There will be time for exclusive soon enough. MrRedwing Send a private message.
Thank you all for your responses. Definitely helps a lot. I'm a small town guy living on the coast in a big city. You guys are right. Look up meetup in your area so you can get out and meet people. Sometimes people get fixated on a person too soon.
Not to mention, when she's out with that other guy, you're going to need something to do. Burns Send a private message. From my past experience I think if you really like her you need to win her over. Thread Tools Show Printable Version. Join Date Oct Gender: This is tripping me up. I just started dating a girl I really like. We are definitely very invested in each other, but she's already saying she's not ready to be exclusive, etc. Has told me she is going on other dates I know one of the guys, actually.
So far it's been fine, I haven't really let on that it bugs me a lot, although there was some pillow talk like "well how do you feel about that? Ok to take it slow. But we talk all the time, see each other every other day practically, and are very close. She tells me constantly how much she thinks about me and how great our time is. But also says her feelings scare her, make her wary. I guess what trips me up is why does she or anyone continue to see other people if they are feeling good about one particular person? The amount of time we spend together plus the amount we talk, I can't imagine she is really seeing other people that much.
Originally Posted by SavageBrah In the morning while I was driving her to hers place I managed to persuade her to stay one more night. Let her pay the next go round. She's dating another guy. Will I be using other people?
Do I just keep on going, keep my frame, and count on the fact that she will eventually stop seeing others? At the moment, I want a true relationship with her. Join Date May Gender: Location Toronto Posts How long you guys have been dating? It is important, because some in the very beginning some attractive girls do date other guys, and it can take time until they give up on other guys and commit to exclusivity. It is obviously not a rule, but it does happens. The only weird things is why does she goes out of her way to tell you she dates other guys? Just telling she is not ready to commit or be exclusive should be enough.
She's always been pretty honest about her feelings and stuff. Our history is a little odd, because we were sort of dating for a week or two before this last week but we couldn't act on anything because her friend was into me and she felt bad. They finally had a heart to heart and she felt comfortable.