On the other hand, inserting yourself any further into his life will most likely cause unnecessary drama for you and draw out this already painful experience. She was clueless as well and completely shocked to learn about me. We are still friendly and this all happened a couple years ago. Ironically her name was Jo: More responses please… I am so torn. Cynthia… I would want to know too. Of course I checked out her FB page and she is so in love with this guy. If they are…he hooked up with me right after…This women is going to be so crushed.
I am grateful that I am not her bc she built a life around this loser.
I started seeing a guy casually over the past 2 months and things are starting to get serious! But last week we went out and he confessed to me that he had a girlfriend already but will be breaking up with her to be with me. He and his girlfriend are obviously having issues but. He's pretty much exactly the kind of guy with whom I would want a Even though I know he has a girlfriend now, my feelings for him haven't really I'm sure his girlfriend doesn't know about me, as I've only known about her for a day. I don't know how many times my friends have started casual dating.
If it helps you with your decision, if I were the woman being cheated on, I would want to know too. Think about how much more she will be hurt if she finds out years down the road. I hope to never find myself in this situation, I would be torn as to what to do also. I would tell her.
My sister was in this situation sort of. The girlfriend of 5 years found out about my sister and contacted her. She was very pleased she did! She may not believe you. If you have evidence, that will help. However, I will share a story of a friend of mine. This happened within the last year. My friend contacted the wife and told her. The wife confronted the husband about it and then he killed himself. It was a horrible situation all around. I mean, what a coward… having a wife and baby at home, and then leading on my friend and lying to everyone only to kill himself???
My friend was pretty screwed up about it.
Obviously this is a very extreme situation. And nobody should ever feel badly about being honest. But it was very complicated and my friend really struggled. Waitwhat wow what a nightmare. I will say anyone attempting an affair is in an unhappy place. Instead of looking to solve their problems or accept them, they look for a distraction in someone else. Something that makes them feel temporarily better.
I can see if how all that fell apart, for some people, where would there be left to go? I know other people who have done the same with money.
Lived a lavish life and then been hit by a financial crash. Hi you know before I would have said leave the other woman out and dont get involved but now you know what im thinking maybe if we all stood together against these douchebags and put it out there then they would maybe think twice. I was in a relationship and I sometimes had niggles that something might have been off but I never knew if this was insecurity or a gut feeling.
If a girl had came to me I would have believed her and been grateful. So maybe its time these idiots started getting a comeuppance. Also, he deserves to lose his relationship over this. So many men cheat. I am still very torn about this. I am not a vengeful person.
I would only tell this woman out of compassion for her. And I would wait until the new year. Honestly I am more heart broken for than me.
Every lie is like a loop playing in my head. Am I this gullible? Asked him repeatedly if there was someone else. Even ended the relationship a few times bc he was bringing his A game. Self-Confident too hard about his commitment. She would prefer to assume or in some cases, dream he is as committed to her as she is to him. They wait for a while, giving promises of everlasting love til they finally get what they want.
Then they stick around a little longer and say Hey! Then there are guys who are very willing to talk about the relationship. Some girls give a lot and put up with a lot in order to get what they want most…the relationship. And most often in the end they end up with a broken heart.
On the other hand, some guys including the ones more likely to cheat come at it from the other direction. He wants sex, even if he has to give some relationship to get it. But cheating violates the relationship, not the sex. To put it bluntly… guys cheat because the relationship was never their goal…it was the sex. Remember, guys are not that complex. You probably know about some girls who stalk guys like sexual predators- they try in every way they can to get them to cheat.
Generally speaking, guys who grow up in homes where their parents cheat, find it much easier to do the same thing. Counselor Gary Neuman asked cheating and non-cheating husbands about why they cheated. Some guys give in easily to the temptation to cheat because that is what their friends and family do. Do you remember Tiger Woods? He was married to one of hottest women on the planet, but he was a big-time cheater with lots of women. The guy cheated once, then twice, then three times.
It became easier and easier to give in, harder and harder to say no. If you are dating a guy who cheated before, there is a good chance he will cheat on you too, even if from the beginning he never planned it that way. If he has cheated more than once, it is even more likely that it will happen again.
If your boyfriend only talks to you during business hours, it might indicate that he has a wife or girlfriend at home who occupies his time during the evenings. Only meeting for lunch dates or while on business trips may also be signs that your boyfriend has a romantic life outside of your relationship. Leann Knobloch of the University of Illinois identified several characteristics that couples self-identified as leading relationship uncertainty including discussing finances, the role of family in a relationship and deciding on religious beliefs.
Your boyfriend shying away from these topics may not point to him having another woman, but it can indicate that there are issues within the relationship that may also be a cause for concern. While the concept of autonomy, respecting each other's lives and interests outside of the relationship, is one of several relationship rules identified by Leslie Baxter of Lewis and Clark College, too much autonomy may indicate that there are elements of his personal life that your boyfriend is trying to keep from you.
Though your boyfriend may have a valid and reasonable explanation for why he doesn't talk to his family or doesn't have many friends, refusing to bring you around his social circle may be an indicator that he wants to keep your relationship hidden away. If you have never met his friends or family in a social situation, there is a chance that he does not want his friends to spill the beans about his wife or girlfriend. A private candlelight date can make for a very romantic and intimate evening.
If, however, your boyfriend insists that all of your dates be at private, romantic venues, this may be a sign that he is attempting to lay low and avoid being spotted by the friends or family members of a potential wife or girlfriend.