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My husband is 9 years older. Dating a 28 year old when I was 20 was awesome because she was, by far, the most emotionally mature person I'd been with. Sex was also pretty good because she knew what she wanted and knew what I might like that I hadn't thought of.
We also had a lot of fun because she was full of ideas and dates we could do that I would have never considered. The only downsides was she was very career oriented whereas I was a High School dropout with a GED just trying to get by.
She eventually pushed me to go to college and essentially walked me step by step into going to school. We broke up shortly after my first term due to distance and because I didn't know how to maintain a relationship where we didn't see eachother often but I owe that woman pretty much everything. Currently I'm 8 years older than my fiance and that has upsides too. I get to be the older person sharing wisdom and guidance when necessary and that's cool. Life is interesting because I'm essentially one life station ahead of her all the time.
When she was in college I'd just graduated.
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When she started her career I had just finally landed my first "real" job. This has simultaneously kept me feeling useful and kept me feeling younger than my years. But it still matters to her and I need to contribute more care because even though I don't think it's a big deal, it's a big deal to her and I need to take her seriously if I want this to be a healthy relationship.
Also, my biological clock has started ticking loudly the last few years and she's still trying to decide if she's ready for kids and such. I completely understand her hesitancy, but there's a voice in my head screaming that I'm running out of time to be a Dad while she's still getting ready.
It's possibly one of the biggest issues we face currently in our relationship but because it's not a really "day to day" issue, we don't address it much. She might only have 27 years to my 24, but she's got 9 years in the adult world to my 6. The proportions are wider in that context, and that context does make a big difference.
I'm going to make a general statement, and I'm annoyed that I have to say this, but I understand that general statements don't apply person to person. Girls typically care more about status than guys do. She's dating me, and I'm 3 years younger, when she had other suitors who were as much as 3 and 4 years older. Some guy in his early 20's going up against guys as old as 30's a huge deal. They had lots of time to establish themselves in the adult world. They had careers, they had cars, they had money. I didn't have a car, I didn't even have a plant for fuck's sake. I still managed to stand out to her, so I think that says something about how well we click.
Sorry if this makes me sound like Rebecca black's lyricist, but people who are 18 were 17 last year. It would be hard for me to trust that an 18 year old was removed from that enough just yet. I dated a 34 year old when I was 19, it was all cool except when we went out everyone assumed she was a hooker. We lived together for a bit over a year and ended up breaking up just because I knew deep down I wasn't that serious and had girls at work 10 years younger than her flirting with me and I didn't want to break up with her when she was 40 as I felt that would be unfair.
She was at a age where she really should of got married i dont think anyone wants to be single in their 40s while I was just starting out with dating and life in general and didn't want to settle down. Ohala was the duplicator. I can somewhat relate. I went on a date with this 32 year old Asian chick with fake boobies. Date went well, to say the least , as we ended up at a hotel. I felt like I was walking alongside a hooker, just because of the obvious age difference hate saying that because she was pretty awesome.
At another time we went to a club, and I felt all the women were staring at us. It was definitely an interesting experience. I've been with someone 15 years older than me, and at 18 people thought it was weird, but when you're 40 and they're 55 it sounds perfectly fine. My brother is married to a woman 15 years older than him, but it's the happiest he's ever been.
Sometimes his wife is exasperated because he doesn't understand why something is important, but he listens to her no matter what so it doesn't cause problems.
However, it is usually considered very creepy and not quite right. I had a huge gap once, she was 27 and I was Stopped seeing her after realizing she was a compulsive liar with a mild case of schizophrenia and was still living with her parents. The other stuff I understand, but people with schizophrenia dont ask to have it.
They want to be normal like everyone else. A little unfair to judge someone for having a mental illness they cant control. Imagine your brain, the one thing that basically makes you who you are, shit out on you. Not saying you should have stayed with her, but people need to be more understanding to people with mental illnesses. I agree people do need to be more understanding, but at the same time if someone admittedly can't handle it, it would be unfair to both parties to date someone knowing you can't provide proper support. When I was 34 I started seeing a girl who was We had a lot in common so the difference seemed irrelevant.
She ditched me because she wanted kids but knew that I didn't. When I was 39 I had a fling with a girl who was It was nice while it lasted, but it definitely wasn't long term. I still follow her on Facebook and we have little in common. When I was 43 I started seeing a 31 year old.
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Been living together now for 4. We have some things in common but it's an opposites-attract relationship. As with the first one I mentioned, the age difference is mostly irrelevant. So my personal experience is that the half-your-age-plus-seven rule seems grounded in common sense. A big difference in age isn't in itself problematic. But once you get to the point where you're from two different generations e. While his youth was such a physical attraction, his life experiences where so far behind mine and rendered him very immature to me.
And the biggest deal was that we did not appreciate the same music, tv shows or moments in time. He said it did not affect him that way at all! When I was 21, I dated a guy who was It was nice dating someone who was serious and mature about relationships. I guess some people are only meant to be in your life for a certain amount of time. I dated a girl ten years younger than myself, she was She was incredibly attractive and she was into older guys and I needed the confidence boost. She didn't "grasp" work and money. We broke up because I worked too much, one of the complaints was "you're gone for like ten hours every day how are we supposed to have a relationship".
Nah she just hadn't been to work before and hadn't needed to pay for anything herself yet. Used to override my work stories with her college stories "omg i had to wake up at 9am today for an early class" and completely dismiss my "I worked for 14 hours today". Plenty of people can skate by without working in high school. It's not like jobs for high schoolers pay much anyway. Couple hundred bucks a month doesn't make a big impact on your life. Just from experience having a partner under 20 when you're over thirty is weird, you forget how immature people are at that age.
You don't want to be out with a girl and have to keep apologising for the things she does because she thought drinking 15 tequilas was a great idea. It wasn't that big a gap but at 32 I was seeing a 24 year old woman briefly. She liked pubs but didn't like drinking, so she was definitely the mature one in that relationship.
I'm just shy of 31 and my lower age floor is about Upper limit is much higher - up to 45 or so. I've been talking to a 29 year old on Match. I have a friend who is just a few weeks older than me, and he is more than happy to swipe on year olds on Tinder. They're too young for me. Listening to him talk is always interesting and he always has something to say. But sometimes I get insecure about our age gap and his child.
Other than that, I love the relationship so far. I just ended my age gap relationship because my parents couldn't come to terms with it, and it was too hard for me to date someone who mg parents didn't approve of. I'm 19 he's I miss him every day. I'm really glad to hear your story as it's similar to mine. I hope things work out for you two, and even if it doesn't, having a relationship like that is amazing. If he brings you happiness you should go back. This is how it is with my wife.
She is 47 I am She looked no older than , if even that. Always straightforward and in the clear. Very different and much better from the younger girls I dated before meeting her. When I was 15, I dated a guy that was We dated for roughly 4 years, and he made me feel so guilty about our dodgy age gap that I dropped out of school and left all of my friends for him. My ex was 12 years older than I was when I was Wasnt a big deal to me since I always preferred older guys anyways and we had a lot in common.
The weirdest thing for me was when I was filling out my passport application, I put my mom's date of birth on it and he was closer in age to my mom than me. I had also dated a 34 year old guy when I was That was a lot weirder and I was way more immature at that time obviously. We had nothing in common. We started dating at 19 and I come with a lot of baggage health-wise and it had been almost impossible to find guys who understand.
During our first ever conversation, I opened up to him about all of these issues of mine and he was genuinely understanding and compassionate. I knew right then and there that I wanted to be with him. We started about three months later and have been inseparable ever since. Yes, I know I'm a freak. I'm not going to act like I'm super mature, but I really have a hard time connecting with people my own age.
I just feel more comfortable around older men. I met a woman 9 years older than me and I love it. She knows how to have relationships, and is enthusiastic about our time together. Our relationship helps me mature in ways I need, and helps her keep the party going. I do have a bit of a thing about older women, if I'm honest. Not sure where it came from. It's a myth that those women are undesirable and have lost their looks; many of them remain absolutely gorgeous, especially if childfree and have been looking after themselves.