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As a child of divorce, the last thing I wanted to do was repeat the pattern with my son. I was willing to stay in an unhealthy relationship just so my son could have mommy and daddy in the same house. I thought that I could pretend that we were a happy family and he would believe it. I forgot how intuitive children are, how observant. I knew I had to leave in order to show him what two happy parents look like, and in our case, it was apart. Going through a divorce in my thirties is something I never thought I would have to experience. I felt like a pariah in my small seaside town.
All of our couple friends from the marriage deserted me and began taking turns bringing dinners to the man I had left. Dad at 40ish, mom at It can and will happen for you, in its time.
We deal with this by trying to spread the attention around. He didnt tell me cos he said he couldnt talk about it. I'll get out and see where it all takes me, I can't see myself comparing or even chatting much about a former relationship with anyone I'm dating except to explain why I'm out for dinner with them in the first place. If you stumble and fall, just pick yourself back up! I am wiser and more savvy and less starry eyed. I guess looking at it as just a fresh start and being more open to changing yourself for the better and to avoid shortchanging yourself, all in all, works out in the end. So about a year later, after that relationship crashed in a major way but nowhere near as painfully as the end of my marriage , I finally did what everyone recommends and spent time alone - and it was FANTASTIC.
Everyone is different, I think. I'm 48, 4 years out and have no real desire to live with anyone or remarry. Like you, people keep telling me it will happen. But for the moment, I date rather happily and don't miss it.
The best part about being divorced after a short marriage is being single again at Seriously. When my marriage ended after just two years, the idea of. Dating in your late 30s (especially if you are dating after divorce with kids like you're over 35 and they didn't bother to ask because you didn't fit the criteria.
On the other hand, I know many many friends who met the love of their lives after their first divorce. I think if you want it, it will happen. I met my first husband at 28, married him at 31, and was divorced at I dated someone completely different than my husband pretty much immediately, and got very wrapped up in the new relationship and marveled at all the things that the new guy brought to the table that my husband had not spontenaity, creativity, lots of great communication, more adventurous sex, etc.
It helped me from feeling totally lonely, which meant it also delayed some of the very important and necessary processing that I needed to do. So about a year later, after that relationship crashed in a major way but nowhere near as painfully as the end of my marriage , I finally did what everyone recommends and spent time alone - and it was FANTASTIC. I still dated, but very loosely and in a non-committed way. I set up a new apartment with a lovely garden and my cat, and I watched all the tv I wanted and cooked all the foods I wanted and listened to whatever music I wanted and just got back to knowing ME.
And a few months later in a very random stroke of luck, I met my now-husband while walking down the street. At 38, I just had my first child and am about to celebrate my 2-year wedding anniversary with my second husband.
So happiness and love definitely happens after earlys divorce, yeah. I think a bit of dating and a bit of alone time will do you wonders, in whatever order suits you but both are necessary before finding the next great big thing, in my opinion. That doesn't have to mean getting married again or even falling in love again , but if you want that, it's absolutely available and possible.
I'm grateful every day for the end of my first marriage, without which I wouldn't have my second husband or first baby. I'm exactly your age and in very close to your situation, with a little more time gone by since our decision to divorce it's been about a year. I spent a few months right after the decision feeling REALLY weird about ever dating again and kind of like venturing out on dating sites and then hating everyone on them and then running away again. I've found as time has gone on from that, though, that I am just finding more happiness from social relationships in general and more excited to go out and do stuff with friends or even in bigger groups once in a while.
Most recently, a friend hosted a fairly big NYE party and I went in with no intentions of meeting guys, but did hit it off with someone and had a pretty fun night after that! I'm not sure it's leading towards dating, as we're in different cities, but we-ve been flirty messaging a tiny bit, and just feeling that spark towards someone and seeing them feeling it back! So a year out from separation, I'm actually feeling pretty excited about the prospect of getting back into the game as a much more confident-in-myself person than I was back in my 20s when the ex-marriage relationship started!
So I know this advice fills a little bit different niche than people responding who are 10, 20 years out, but I hope it helps you feel better about how feeling just more social in general as an introvert, no less! Despite feeling stressed out about a zillion other things right now, dating is actually occupying a "ooh, that could be fun" spot in my brain that I definitely wouldn't have thought possible, say, 6 months ago.
Also feel free to memail me if you just wanna chat year-old divorced lady with no kids kinda stuff!
It's definitely strange to navigate friend groups on your own that used to be all couples, all the time! My close friends have been mega supportive and sweet but also none of them have ever divorced so there's just certain support they can't quite offer posted by augustimagination at I met my first husband when I was We married when I was 24, divorced when I was I, uh, ended up marrying my rebound. But we've been together almost 10 years and this July will be our 5th wedding anniversary. It would have been our 7th, but when he first proposed, I panicked about remarrying and ended up pocket vetoing it.
Thankfully, he was patient and realized I was afraid of marriage and needed more time.
Two years later I told him I was ready and we went to the courthouse. Things are better, much better. You might not marry the rebound, but there is love to be found when you're over I dated my now ex husband from , married at 30, more or less broke up at 31, divorced at I often thought about the idea that this was my chance and I blew it , even though the cause was largely precipitated by his alcoholism and though of course I played a part, this was wholly not what I imagined for myself and my life.
A lot of it was tied up in feelings of shame; all my friends and family had just gathered together to celebrate us, it cost a lot of money, it was embarrassing to admit this mistake. What really helped was rejecting the notion that it was a mistake. It was not a mistake. Every single choice I have ever made in my life was the best choice I could have made at the time. I don't regret any of them. I learned more about myself than I ever would have if I had coasted along in an unhappy marriage for the rest of my days. After my ex husband and I separated and he moved out of the house, I dated a bit.
Dated a very nice man for six months who I had a lot in common with but different goals, broke up amicably.